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Breastfeeding

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user1495444352 · 14/03/2018 23:40

THis might sound strange to some because i know it’s natural but with my first born I bottle fed this time I want to try breast feeding .. but I’m such a private person and very self conscious so I’m worried about them constantly watching me after the birth and touching My boobs (cringe) does it sound stupid or do others worry about this too ?? Hmm

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Plumsofwrath · 14/03/2018 23:41

Who is “them”?

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user1495444352 · 14/03/2018 23:56

Sorry the midwifes ... I know they are there to help but it makes me feel nervous 😬

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User24689 · 14/03/2018 23:59

Nobody has to touch you if you don't want them to. With my first baby I remember the midwives touching me to help baby latch and I really needed that help. But with my second I didn't need any help. Remember It's all in a days work for a midwife!

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user1495444352 · 15/03/2018 00:04

THANk you , I feel so silly posting it but if anything my boobs are my most hated body part so I’m just abit self conscious about it ! I’m sure I’ll Be fine when the time comes 😬

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Foggymist · 15/03/2018 00:31

Usually they wouldn't touch you, just explain to you how to position baby and look at the latch. They're not even seeing your breast when they look, to them it's just about making sure the latch is correct, don't worry about it.

Mewith · 15/03/2018 17:08

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Caitttlinn · 17/03/2018 11:16

Thanks @Mewith for sharing the link. This is such a helpful guide. It really made me feel connected with other women and helped me to feel like I wasn't alone in my initial struggles with breastfeeding. There are so many things in it that I wish I had read before my baby was born. I really think it would have made a world of difference reading it beforehand! Good one

Melpot · 18/03/2018 10:59

@Mewith you are so right about this guide! There is a lot of info about breastfeeding on the internet but this guide has got all I needed and it's written simply and sweetly! Made me want to breastfeed even more now :)

lovelsa · 19/03/2018 15:47

Remembering back, when the midwife was first helping me with my first, she asked my permission to help before she touched me. You'll be fine and they won't ask you to do anything that you aren't comfortable with!! x

I remember thinking that after all they had already seen in 28 hours of labor, touching my breast to help my little one feed was the least of my concerns lol!

AgnesMom · 06/05/2018 18:55

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GummyGoddess · 06/05/2018 19:04

Put it in your birth plan so that they are aware of your anxiety in case you forget to mention it. I was instructed as I asked not to be touched and they were so helpful. I had help from midwives, health visitor and also one of my local breastfeeding clinics.

I also watched lots of videos about latching on YouTube and also had DH watch them so that he could give a different perspective and help me. I didn't mind him touching to help and he was good at slight adjustments until we got it.

DistractedByIrrelevance · 06/05/2018 20:51

Mewith/Caitttlinn/Melpot or whoever you are, do you actually sell a lot of your crappy ebook this way?

4mogirl · 06/05/2018 20:54

The midwives asked me first if I was ok with them touching my breasts, so if I was feeling uncomfortable I could have said no. But in the end I was glad of the help.

Pickleshickles · 06/05/2018 20:55

Seriously, that ebook is cringe.

OP, I've breastfed 3 children for years on end and no one has ever touched my boob. Feeding in public is also absolutely fine, no one ever comments.

NoSleepNever · 06/05/2018 21:29

I worried about this but needed all the help I could get when my baby was born. I even went to breastfeeding classes where other women had their boobs out as well as me which I never thought would happen.

It's awkward at first but you get used to it, that many people see your fanjo it's nothing major.

I always use a cover in public or feed in the car but in front of HV, in hospitals or doctor's surgeries, I don't mind who walks in

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