Pushing second birth

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I’ve already asked this once 😳but still can’t get get it off my mind! I had a very very long pushing stage with my first and so worries the same will happen again with this one! Doing a hypnobirthing course and I have a doula this time but if anyone would share their experiences good or bad, wouldn’t be great. I also have pelvic floor damage, very mild cystocele, and I don’t want it to get worse woth a long pushing stage again!

4 hours with my first. Three with my second. Both back to back. First ended in forceps and my second was very nearly forceps again but the sight of them gave me such a case of the horrors that I pushed with all my might and got DC2 out.

6 hours pushing stage for me with no 1! Absolutely fucking awful. Second the whole thing was done in under 4 hours start to finish of waters breaking. A lovely easy birth, and I know lots with a similar tale to tell. Good luck !

Both were an hour for me.

Try drinking raspberry leaf tea. It strengthens the muscles in the cervix to supposedly make the pushing stage shorter. I had 2-3 cups a day and pushed baby out in 6 minutes.

Wow Mrstobe90 I’ll be getting myself some rasp leaf tea next time that’s for sure

Essential videos I think

With dc2, 1st stage 15 hours, 2nd stage (pushing) 10 mins. 3rd (placenta) ten mins. That 10 mins of pushing still felt like forever. I specifically remember the burning feeling and resisting push and panted instead . Glad a did as no tears this time and recovered well despite him coming out on the side.

My dc1 labour was 13 hours so 2nd birth was longer.

I am pregnant with DC2 and I'm studying Hypnobirthing where the philosophy is very much that if you work with it, your body does the work and you don't need to actively 'push', but to breathe in the right way to assist your uterus to expel the baby.

It will be so fascinating to see how this hypnobirth goes in comparison to the traumatic hospital birth I had the first time. I would encourage everyone to learn about hypnobirthing though, it makes a lot of sense and has a lot of scientific backing behind its theories.

@SleepySheepy I totally agree and wish you all the best with your next labour. I honestly hand on heart can say (unless through unforeseen emergency circumstances) your next labour WILL be easier and better.

Hypnobirthing is basically them re-teaching us women how to give birth. We have this knowledge since the dawn of time but over the last few hundred years we have forgotten. We have been institutionalized by hospital birth and a lot of establishment decisions made BY MEN way back when.

I am very pro hospital, midwife unit, and home birth, but what I am anti is unnecessary examinations during labour to see how dilated you are (only ever needed if they are worried about the baby) and giving birth on your back (scientifically proven the worse position).

So many women could have avoided forceps, taring, having an episiotomy, with these logical, simple to understand birthing practices.

I agree with the woman in these videos that the fear of labour is cultural and so unhelpful to the labour itself.

This video about fear of labour is especially good

I did hypnobirthing with both. First was awful, second was a dream.

I did hypnobirthing. It was shit, didn't prepare me at all. I suspect it's great if your body actually knows what to do and does it, but mine couldn't- DS was in the wrong position so my contractions weren't working and felt like they were ripping from my belly button outward. Left to our own devices both DS and I would have died, I could never have got hi out unassisted and him live, I'd have broken his neck. One of the reasons they waited so long to intervene was because I was hypnobirthing. Once I was on the drip my contractions felt much better, far less painful. But by then I was too exhausted.

You can still use hpynobirthing when on a drip, having had pain relief, an epidural ect, even on the way to a c section! It's definitely not about denying medical intervention!

What position were you in too? I was kneeling with second and he only took two pushes

Hypnobirthing is actually a lot about assistance, Like listening to the midwives when they tell you to push/not push ect and having an 'active labour' which are all now encouraged in hospitals. It's based on facts, research and science, but there's if there's an emergency, the pain is too much, your body is not 'doing what it's supposed to' them your obviously supposed to hand it over to the doctors. it's about common sense and being logical and if your in distress or your baby is then NEVER wait for any kind of medical assistance because of continuing with a birthing 'method'.

I don't know who taught the above poster to continue with her hypnobirthing when in such distress but this is very bad practice from whoever she learnt with. It is not the standard advice from qualified professionals who teach these breathing techniques.

It really is just breathing and not birthing on your back if you can help it, pushing when you should, and not panicking as this slows your progress down and makes labour longer.

And you really don't need to pay for it, a few videos on YouTube is really all you need

Ingesting things doesn't tone your muscles. Sadly. I'd be in better shape if it did.