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Elective section cancelled - good decision???

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ellemo · 18/04/2007 13:24

Hey, have cancelled my elective c-section today and have decided to give natural birth another go. I am terrified of the delivery (pain management, the pushing & dealing with any tearing afterwards) but I have come to the decision that as much as I HATED DS#2 VBAC - I can't be as 'shocked' a second time around, I know what to expect & I have discussed my drug options with consultant who has advised me to have an epidural if needed, as I was on another planet last time. After too much gas & air & a diamorphine injection, I had no handle on the situation, I just led there suffering from the exhaustion & pretty much letting the baby do all the work. It was awful. So, i figure I will get DH to keep an eye on my gas & air intake & then we'll have an epidural when neccasary - which I can hopefully allow to 'wear off' in order to feel my urges to push. Its all academic at this stage I know, the birth may not go 'to plan' lets say, but I feel happier now that I have come to a final decision & I am just going to let baby arrive when hes ready. I am still dreading it - am very apprehensive - need all your wonderful advise on having control over your own birth - any prep I can do - don't just want to be at the mercy of the midwife this time. Any breathing or relaxtation tips for labour??? Any tips on keeping your strength up during labour?? Any good books out there on the subject of mananging your labour & delivery?? Lots of questions, thanks for all previous advise - think I have made the right choice on my most important decision, as much as I am not looking forward to it, I do feel much happier than I have in previous weeks xxx

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peanutbutterkid · 18/04/2007 19:46

No tips, except maybe to plan to stay at home until as late as possible. Otherwise hope that it all goes as well!

Klaw · 18/04/2007 20:18

Well, as a VBACtivist and Doula in training I could recommend a few tips and books.

Can't recall if I've already offered before, Ellemo?

I could send you a word.doc of loads of links and some ideas of books, if you email me? klaw at macmail dot com.... Also don't recall what kind of outlook you have, you might find some books or links too earth mothery or you may find that you like that, let me know and I shall try to send appropriate info!

lulumama · 18/04/2007 20:23

stay at home until you can no longer bear it

stay active, mobile , upright, listen to your body !!

i would not recommend an epidural for 2 reasons:

it stops you being mobile and being able to move ,stand, rock, and squat as you feel , is really good to help get a VB

and it will mask any untoward pain that can indicate any problems with your scar

read anything by Ina May Gaskin and Sheila Kitzinger that you can, they empower you to believe your body can birth the baby

look into having a doula, who can support you and encourage you , and keep you going

when are you due?

largeginandtonic · 18/04/2007 20:34

Good luck ellemo! Dont worry, i had a pretty awful VBAC with dd, third degree tear and very long op labour. Next baby came in a couple of hours with a small tear and just a whiff of gas and air. They couldnt have been more different. Like you i just knew i didnt want to have another section. Really hope it goes ok for you xxxxx

largeginandtonic · 18/04/2007 20:34
lulumama · 18/04/2007 20:35
mangojuice · 19/04/2007 20:46

You could try a natal hynotherapy CD- I used one for my second birth after a very out of it and panicky first time. It was excellent and the birth was far better than I could have hoped for. I even took the CD with me and listened to it in delivery. It really helped me feel in control of things.

An added bonus is that my ds must have got so used to it in utero he will fall asleep within 10mins if I put the CD on!

I seem to remember there was a specific VBAC one available, I'll sneak into my sons room and get the case and see who made it...

mangojuice · 19/04/2007 20:54

The one I had was called "Effective Birth Preparation" by Maggie Howell. The case gives a web address: www.natalhypnotherapy.com

I got mine off ebay, I think it was about a fiver. Money well spent in my case.

Very best of luck with everything. I'll be thinking of you!

yogimum · 19/04/2007 21:04

I had "Hypnobirthing" The Mongan Method by Marie F. Mongon which really helped me. It also comes with a CD which I loaded onto my Ipod. I still listen to it if I need to relax. I also practised some pranyama (yoga breathing exercises). I taught someone else these when I was in hospital at the same time and she had a natural birth in the birthing pool with no pain relief. She was so thankful and couldn't believe how much it helped her.

yogimum · 19/04/2007 21:05

website www.hypnobirthing.com

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