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Childbirth

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Visitors after birth

15 replies

Chamonix1 · 22/08/2017 08:07

How long did everyone wait before having visitors after birth?
I was young when I had dd and my family welcomed themselves into the birthing room whilst I was still laying on the bed with my catheter in, groggy from the epidural and feeling awful.
I don't remember texting and saying this was ok- I was very surprised to see them!
I'm pregnant again and if all goes well would like to welcome visitors once we are home. It's not that long to wait is it? If all goes well 24 hours?
I don't know anyone else who's done this and worried there'll be and uproar

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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 22/08/2017 08:09

I has both sets of grandparents at the hospital within hours of coming round (general anaesthetic emcs) which makes some people cringe but was my choice and I would do it again. You do what works for you and your own wee family.

megletthesecond · 22/08/2017 08:12

I'm anti visitors after a birth . Second time round I only had my parents make a flying visit to the hospital and XP's parents didn't travel up until baby was two weeks old. It was bliss!

greendale17 · 22/08/2017 08:13

Immediate family came to the hospital.

Friends came over after 3 days

PumpkinSpiceEverything · 22/08/2017 08:13

Only PIL (my own parents live abroad and came a week later) and DH called them to come round after I'd had my catheter out and had showered/freshened up a bit. I didn't mind, since I'd been able to tidy myself up and they only stayed 15 minutes or so.

Rockandrollwithit · 22/08/2017 08:14

Wait and see how you feel after. I actually preferred visitors at hospital rather than at home a few days later as there were strict visiting hours and it got the visits out of the way!

oeufdepaques · 22/08/2017 08:20

I've just had DC2. With DC1 I had loads of visits from Pil (they live far away so travelled up to stay for my entire stay in hospital which was 5 days). It was intense and I didn't really rest.

They've just stayed 3 days and dc2 is 13 days old. I had no visitors at all in hospital apart from DH and dd. Got loads of rest and time to snuggle my newborn. Much easier to have visitors at home as they helped massively with dd. But that of course depends on your visitors!

AreWeThereYet000 · 22/08/2017 08:21

I had my mum and partner at the birth with me so she met the baby then, I got home about 2pm and family came round at tea time once I'd had chance to get something to eat and relax for a little while. Friends came the day after but it was up to me

mumofone234 · 22/08/2017 08:24

We requested no visitors (not even parents) until two days later, and I was very happy with that. It gave me time to get started with feeding etc without having constant interruptions. Some people didn't like it, but most were understanding. I made sure I sent lots of messages and photos before then.

ASqueakingInTheShrubbery · 22/08/2017 08:28

Parents and ILs came to the hospital the day she was born, and I was delighted to see them. We were stuck there for 10 days and apart from the bad days when I couldn't bear to talk to anyone, I loved visitors. Hospital is boring, babies don't do much, but people love to see them.

SellMySoulForSomeSleep · 22/08/2017 08:37

Had DC at 4am. Traumatic 44 hours labour. Parents and parents in law came at visiting hours later that day about 1pm ish.

Was sent home at 12pm the next day so no visitors. Can't remember if I had any visitors that afternoon / evening.

The day after was open season. The visitors started and didn't stop for weeks.
I was happy to see people though.

Currently waiting for number 2. Would be fine with the same again.

BrucesTooth · 22/08/2017 08:56

Totally up to you.
With DS, it was a week before in-laws came (live 3h away) and nearly 3 weeks before mine came (live 1.5h away but both had horrible colds and didn't want to pass it on)
With DD it was 2 days for my folks and 2 weeks for in-laws.
Personally I would always want a few days to ourselves, but if they lived up the road then popping in to meet the baby and then going home might make sense.

NerrSnerr · 22/08/2017 10:51

We didn't have visitors until we were home with both. With our first my MIL suggested she waited in the car park while we have the c section and nips up afterwards. Luckily we said

NerrSnerr · 22/08/2017 10:51

(Posted too soon)
No because I had a huge pph and was in hdu.

I much prefer visitors at home.

BaffledMummy · 22/08/2017 13:08

I think you are being very reasonable and sensible. DC1 had endless rounds of visitors. Didn't mind the hospital visitors actually but found the home visitors massively stressful...Found it hard to relax in my own house. DC2 we were discharged directly from Labour suite and nobody is very interested in the poor second child so visits have been less (but still find them stressful!)....or maybe it's because I was so rude to them first time around
Seriously though, not unreasonable at all...if I could have gotten away with it I wouldn't have had visitors for a month!

travis45 · 22/08/2017 13:22

I had my parents, inlaws, siblings, husbands aunt, uncle & cousin straight after dd1 and a BBQ the day I got out of hospital, not fun.

Both parents with dd2 and then a wedding 2 days later, again not too fun.

Think I'll be making it a bit more relaxing and having my husband and daughters at the hospital and everyone else can visit when we're home.

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