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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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WHY AM I FLIPPING OUT?

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snipersmum · 28/03/2007 20:20

Just about to drop no 3, but as much as I hate not being able to walk, turn over in bed, being grumpy, etc etc, why am I suddenly wishing I don't have to go through labour, have a screaming newborn, survive on no sleep for a year etc. You'd think by now I would know that it is a phase that ends, but I am ready to burst into tears at the drop of a hat and throw a hissy fit that my 3 yo would be proud of.

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duke · 28/03/2007 20:28

Do it, bury your head in the pillow and go for it. You'll feel alot better. Then sit back and think of sniffing the back of your babys neck and the first time you stroke their back and the first time your children give it a cuddle. If that doesn't help put you feet up and have a glass of wine!

Orinoco · 28/03/2007 20:31

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SenoraPostrophe · 28/03/2007 20:33

...because you're more knackered this time and can't face it? That turning over in bed thing is nature's cruel trick to test you before the baby's born.

you'll be fine (eventually). I'm 6 months down the line with number 3 and it's a doddle. ish.

duke · 28/03/2007 20:43

ooooo milky cheeks and that yummy sweet breath. All I get now is humous burps!

TeeCee · 28/03/2007 20:47

So, so normal, for me anyway! Been there with that feeling in both pregnancies and just know i'll feel the same again with this one. HUGE moments of self doubt, fear, wanting to change my mind, dreading it and so on in the last few days. Ohhhh such strong feeligns of wanting to scream 'nooooooo, stop, I've changed my mind, make it all go away, purleeeease.'!Lasts a day or 2 and then maybe fear sneaks back in for another day a week later, then I'm ok again, as will you be
TC xx

Hassled · 28/03/2007 20:51

I felt just like that with No 4 - mostly during the actual labour - I was thinking about all the bad bits of dealing with a newborn etc. Of course the minute he arrived I fell in love and all's been well. The last stages of pregnancy are hell - 40 weeks is far too long to be pregnant - and I do feel for you but it will be FINE

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snipersmum · 29/03/2007 08:01

thank you all for making me feel less of a freak. I guess part of the problem is that the other two are still so young that I am already sceptical if I will get any bonding time with this one to cuddle etc without DS2 trying to either climb on top of it, or bawling that he wants the only cuddle (which is what he does now with DS1).

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snipersmum · 29/03/2007 08:02

labour with no 3 - is it any easier?

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SenoraPostrophe · 29/03/2007 08:40

it was easier than number 1.

good luck with it!

Charleesunnysunsun · 29/03/2007 08:57

I was so like this with DS2! i was having night time panic attacks from about 20 weeks onward and i begged my Dr for a c section as the thought of labour terrified me!
I cried and sreamed for days............... as it turs out it was the easiest labour i have ever known or heard of and only actually got painfull when pushing.
DS2 was so worth it, granted he is a pita at times when he screams constantly but iw ouldn't trade him for the world!

duke · 29/03/2007 10:22

I worried about finding the time for the bonding bit too. I spent most of the first 3 months with ds1 laying on me. Ds 2 didn't get that but it has been easier to put him to bed, ds1 was a nightmare and still gets up at night. you'll find the time to bond. Get a book, toy, puzzle, potty, drink and snack ready for when you sit down to feed the baby and you can all cuddle up together. good luck I'm sure you'll be fine. The first year will whizz by and you'll think wow i've got 3 little people what happened to my babies?

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snipersmum · 29/03/2007 18:47

Thanks guys, but I do feel it will be much harder with the third - I only just got through with the second - such a nightmare we swore we would never have another, and this one wasn't planned. Guess I'm too hormonal to think straight, or even hope for an easier labour - 2 was just as painful as one in my experience.

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LaidbackinEngland · 29/03/2007 18:57

Sniper - I just had my 3rd son on Monday - labour was at home and lasted less than an hour ... have walked into town and been out and about already. We are all different - but I have found 3 to be not much more work than 2 - Good luck !

divastrop · 29/03/2007 21:34

hi,i had number 5 three weeks ago.my first 2 labours were awful and number 3 was a breeze compared to them.i do know the panic feeling you are experiencing,i was the same this time,then i remembered how much i love gas and air and how high your own endorphins can get you,plus once youve done it twice or more you feel more in control and as soon as it gets going its like'oh yeah,i can do this'.

i have a dd who is coming up to 16mo as well,and she does climb on the baby etc but i'm managing ok and i try to have time with dd3 when the older ones are in bed.she's got me hooked on corrie again,but thats life

all the best!

luciemule · 30/03/2007 00:05

Was thinking - perhaps you're subconsiously worried about your own relationship with your mother and knowing that you might be having a girl, might be making you worried about bonding etc (not that I know details of your relationship with your mother but know it wasn't always easy) That sounds a bit deep doesn't it? I'm very positive that you'll be fine and the fact you're most likely having a DD, will mean that everything will be a bit different and newer and will make it seem exciting all over again as you'll be looking out for things she does differently than DSs. And the fact she's a girl, will make the DSs love being with her too and in turn that will show you a side to them to haven't seen before. Good luck once again if you haven't gone into labour yet and hope your reunion was special.

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