My first was a vaginal birth and was very traumatic. 18.5 hour labour, sent home in middle because I didn't seem like I was in enough pain.
Went drug free and of course the pain was just awful. Dr decided forceps were necessary and went in with them before local anaesthetic took effect. I jumped and there was a massive tear resulting in a fistula. 3 operations, a colostomy bag for 4 months, and physical recovery took a full 6 months. The trauma of the whole thing took much longer to recover from and I've only just stopped crying about it after having such a superior birth experience second time around.
I was forbidden to have another vaginal birth due to the injuries the first time around so it had to be elective c section. Best. Thing. Ever. You turn up at set time and day and go set your room up so it will be nice for you when you get back. Relax and chat with partner about new baby (or in my case babies). Get dressed in hospital gear then taken through to surgery. Everyone is so happy and cheery and everything is explained. Spinal is just like a vaccination or one of the billions of blood tests you will have had. Lovely warm feeling when it starts to take effect.
My blood pressure did drop and it's not a nice feeling. It made me a bit panicky. The anaesthetist was right next to me, talking to me the whole time, and the second it happened she put in another drug to counteract the effect and made me count to 10. Within 10 seconds back to normal. This is so common it's really nothing to worry about.
I didn't like not being able to feel my feet but I think you get that with an epidural for vaginal birth anyway?
It was so funny when she said she'd already sliced me open and was just about to open the sac to get the babies out. I had no idea! Figured they must have been doing something down there...
Two perfect babies crying with no need for any abnormal medical intervention - all done in half an hour. Nice to not have forceps cuts on their little faces.
Breastfeeding in recovery room within 40 mins (though be very clear with drs if you want to breastfeed so they can make sure this happens), then back to my room for a lovely sleep. Light meal in the evening.
You know those first few hellish nights of waking to feed every few hours? The whole thing is SO much easier if you're not following a hugely long labour and exhausting birth.
The recovery was much easier for me with c-section, but obviously my circumstances were a bit unusual.
I had a toddler at home so he couldn't jump on me to cuddle and whatnot but he couldn't do that while I was pregnant anyway.
Within 3 days your maneuverability with drugs should be no different to a successful vaginal birth. You can't lift anything heavier than your baby for 6 weeks but you shouldn't be doing heavy lifting while pregnant either so just more of the same.
If you are distressed about going back for another vaginal birth maybe try c-section instead. So many things can go wrong with vaginal birth (as you know) but for a planned c-section the risks are so low - it's much safer for you and your baby.