What did your Dh/P feel about homebirth?

[Flossam]

And what did you say/do to convince him if he were none too keen?

My DH asked at the booking in apt when we talked about birth choices and MW asked if we had any ideas, I said I was considering a homebirth (DH only brough it up to get her to put me off) and she replied "well obviously the safest place to have your baby is at home." That kind of swung it really. DH thought it was brilliant, looked at head crowning and cut the cord none of which he wanted to do initially. Good luck.

DH was well up for it! I don't think he'd have given me carte blanche to have an elective-c in a big hospital but he was happy for me to do whatever I felt comfortable with. We're lucky in having a midwife-led birthing centre 10 minute drive away so I had my first two DCs there and my 3rd at home. It was brilliant and I would do it again.

I think what swung it for DH was listening to his friend describe a hospital birth from the father's point of view. His friend felt very out of place in an unfamiliar environment and was sent off home after delivery until visiting hours 7 hours later. The thought of not being able to look after his newborn and dw after the birth really upset him- apparently he went home and just sat in the armchair waiting to go and 'visit' his family.

DH is very much of the opinion that we are both going to be parents and we are bringing the baby into our family, he's not attending a medical procedure undergone by me. I think he might have swung too far the other way tbh, he's got an Ina May Gaskin book!

I have found that a lot of men have found the 'homebirths are actually statistically safer' line very comforting.

floss i'm CRAP! but am very loved up (with dh) and so....all else pales into insignificance...

i hope you bring him round...

I gave him the intervention and c-section stats for the local hospital, that brought him round fast enough!

Was totally against it (so was everyone else in RL I mentioned it to) only on MN did I actually get any support.

All it did was make me even more adamant that I was having a HB. In the end it went really well DP loved the fact that afterwards we were all able to get in our own bed and have a cuddle.

Have just asked him would we have another HB and he said no

had a HB 3 months ago with our first baby - was suggested first to us by our doula so we kind of thought it through together. The doula gave us such a lot of fantastic info and books that he felt totally happy with the idea (he is very book-ish and needs to see hard facts, like most men i guess!) and just said that he wanted me to decide where i would be happiest. We are both so happy now that it was at home - magic! All the best..

He wasn't too happy as he's quite "medicalised". He's been given the stats and the info and has spoken about it to a few people and has come round to the idea. (He noted the other day that at least I won't get MRSA at home.)

He's just worried about "something going wrong". The chat the midwife does at 34 weeks should put his mind at ease as they tell you what can go wrong and how they can "fix it" at home and also the circumstances that they would suggest you go to hospital or call an ambulance.

I can't remember him being too against it the first time (then again not sure that I actually asked him)
I think after that I just never considered doing it any other way.
I think that his perspective on it is that I should do whatevr I am most comfortable with, and would definitely say that I cope better in my own environment.
I am hoping to have my 5th baby at home at the beginning of april, and that will be my 4th hb.

Floss, are you pregnant? Congratulations! I'd missed that! And TC, how lovely!

Btw dh1 and dh2 just agreed both times, didn't have any concerns I don't think, those came from other people: consultant/midwives 2nd time/my mother/dh2's mother. I did it anyway at home both times.

I meant to go to that HB group this month but forgot/had only just moved house!

May see you there in march....

Oh, maybe SML!

WWW, I'm only about 10 weeks so still early to be talking about this but I have booking in app soon.

Sophable, sorry you're not feeling so good, I don't know why but hope youre ok IYSWIM.