Going overdue... is it inevitable...?

[teabags]

I have about a week to go til my 'official' due date. With DS1 I went 10 days over. The thought of going another second longer with this pregnancy is killing me. I've really hit the wall, I am soooo uncomfortable. Am I more prone to go overdue again this time? Or is each pregnancy totally different in that regard.......?

Don't have a answer for you but HANG ON IN THERE!!

I felt exactly the same 2 months ago....

Good luck x

My answer would be that every oregnancy is different. With dd she was bang on my due date BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT............Im now sat here at 40+5 waiting the arrival of ds2b..Grrrr.

Think as dd was on time dh & I expected the same again BUT now we obviously realise that this isn't the case.

I now have 150% sympathy for women who go over their dates, its an awful time waiting. I feel like my body is going to pack in under all this added pressure from baby.

Good luck btw and I hope you don't have a wait. FFS I think elephants have it easier than us and they have a longer pregnancy although for all its worth it seems like I have undergone an elephants pregnancy lol...2 years isn't it.??!!

My friend was 9 days over with all three of hers.

Awww SHHHH. My sympathies. DD was fricken 16 days late... SIXTEEN. The nerve of some children!!

Hang in there... Is there an induction date now? SOrry, can't remember where the other thread left off.

some women need to be pregnant for 41 or 42 or even 43 weeks...the EDD is based on a 28 day cycle, and not everyone has those, also, for two of those weeks you are not actually pregnant , it is before the conception , so really it is a bit arbitary.......in france , i have read on here, your date is given as being 41 weeks.....so you;d be going 43 weeks if you went two weeks over ! some babies cook longer than others

the WHO says a gestation can be between 37 - 42 weeks.....

tips on here to naturally and gently encourage labour to start

If it was me, I would not be happy going more thaan 42+ weeks unless I could be shown (on a scan) that the cord and placenta were still functioning fine.

How are you SHHH? Still with us?

Since I started my training as a midwife (23 years ago!), the feeling has been that the due date should be calculated on basis of 42 week pregnancy, then mothers would not get hung up about going 'overdue'.

Women would then be mentally geared up for a pregnancy to last longer. A term pregnancy lasts 37 - 42 weeks which is a difference of 5 weeks.

That doesn't help you now though teabags. Try not to get disheartened and worry about being overdue. Try and concentrate on things you can enjoy now before a new baby comes. Long soak in the bath with candles, hairdressers, massage - anything that is relaxing. Obviously someone will need to take DS1 for you

oh me too
2 weeks and 2 days til due date, but was induced at 6 days over with DD so never even went into labour by myself (which makes me think I might be prone to go over again). I don't actually want to be early this time as have something important to do 3 days before due date, but I really, really, really don't want to go overdue again AND don't want to be induced AND it's summer here. the thought of potentially another 4 weeks is completely and utterly hideous...
so I feel your pain, absolutely

thanks
I'm currently trying the 'brainwashng the baby option'. Have re-packed my bag and am convincing myself bub is on its way in the vain hope my feelings may somehow pass through to the baby...........!

I'm 40+1 today and in the same miserable boat as SHHHH

I have gone 40+5 with first but induced after failure to progress and then 41+1 naturally but with a sweep the day before. Both those kids would still be in there if they weren't poked out.
I have a sweep pencilled for next Tuesday at 41 weeks. I'm pretty much resigned to the fact that it'll be another week before I give birth, it seems to be how long my kids take IYKWIM.
What does seem to make it worse is that everyone will ask when you're due, you tell them the date the m/w has given you and then the world and his wife constantly rings you starting the week before. Thank God for 1471 I say.

I second your comment on the all the phone calls!
I switched mine off last time and didn't return any calls. I was convinced all the people calling for updates or asking silly things like 'have you had it yet' were making me even later!

I have to confess this is my worst nightmare now I'm expecting DC3. DS1 was 12 days early (quite a shock as I was "expecting" him to be late given that "first babies are nearly always late" that I'd been told) and my waters actually broke 13 days early. DS2 my waters broke 1 week early and he was born 2 days before his EDD. I have nightmares about this one being 'different' and going 2 weeks overdue.

My friend had her first 10 days late, her second 3 weeks early and her last more or less on time I think.

I used to think one was either an Aga (slow cooker) or a microwave. But now not so sure... Maybe you're a clever combi microwave roaster grill thing.

At least you're not a toasted sandwich maker...

They vary teabags . DD1 was 5 days early. Dd2 was 10 days late. Ds was born the day after his due date (went into labour on his due day). So goodness knows how when this one will arrive!!

With mine, ds1 was 5 days late, dd was 12 days late (and induced) so when I got pg with ds2 I completely convinced myself that he would also be late. When I went into labour the day after my due date I didn't actually believe I was definitely in labour until I started pushing .

Interesting to read all this and I'm so surprised by the different experiences for each pregancy. I've always felt it was inevitable that I would go overdue in this pregnancy (40+1 today) and that I'm going to be induced. So with that in mind, I'm booked in for an induction at 40+6 - as I figure that what's the point of waiting for an induction at 42 weeks with a bigger baby to deliver?!!