How much like adopting overseas is giving birth? I don't have a point of comparison

[suejonezisdanielsmummy]

Adopting from overseas:

It is a thousand times harder than you expected.
No-one who has done it warned you how bloody painful it is.
Grown-up sensible people start calling you "mummy" immediately.
A few weeks after its over and you have your lovely soft new baby - you start thinking "It wasn't really that bad and I wouldn't like him to be an only child".
A social worker comes every week and warns you how easily you could get pregnant just after adopting so to take precautions. Is she mad?! Sex? I'd rather sleep.

sounds pretty similar to me.

how are you? I followed your blog religiously but haven't seen many posts from you since you got back - how are things going?

The full on ness must be overwhelming.
At leaat when you give birth,the whole pg thing gives you time to muse nad contempalte.

Or maybe the adoption process serves same function?

My bil and his wife have just adopted a three year old (in UK) It has been hard work but God,it has revitalised them.

Maybe I told you,but when I lived in Russia,was coming back to UK alone with 10 mth old dd (day after 9/11) and sat next to a New York couple who had just come back from Kazakhstan with their 10 mth old (who was half the size of mine.)

The turmoil they were undergoing must have been enormous too...

That little girl will be a 6 year old Noo Yawker now..

erm without the social workers, although I guess that midwives step into that roll

A friend of mine did eventually adopt (in the UK) and then got pregnant quite soon after...

giving birth:

It is a thousand times harder than you expected.
No-one who has done it warned you how bloody painful it is.
Grown-up sensible people start calling you "mummy" immediately.
A few weeks after its over and you have your lovely soft new baby - you start thinking "It wasn't really that bad and I wouldn't like him to be an only child".
A midwife or hv comes every week and warns you how easily you could get pregnant just after adopting so to take precautions. Is she mad?! Sex? I'd rather sleep.

Yep quite similar I'd say

Love is love, suejonz. I am a stepmother, and I don't feel the same for my stepdaughter, though I love her very much, but if I was the only mummy she had, I'd love her in exactly the same way as I love my bio children. Dependency and time make love happen with children IMO.
And I found pregnancy and birth (esp no1) incredibly easy! I think nothing is so lovely as being someone's mummy, and how you get the point of being mummy is not the point.
And yes, your comparisons made me laugh!

And I guess whichever way you get your baby it is never quite how you expect it to be and in some ways a whole lot more wonderful than you knew anything ever could be and in a few ways a bit more terrible!

Nice to have you back sue.

LOL. Pretty much spot on I would say. Guess that is a fairly compelling argument to prove a mother is a true mother irrelevant of how she became to be in that position.

Drugs - I didn't get any drugs! Though I didn't have stitches either.

Wannabe - I am fine (less itme to post now!) he is so lovely, a very happy sociable boy most of the time - I am so lucky.

The difference:

trying to learn how to use a car seat with a wriggling one year old with their own opinion on how it should be done.
trying to learn how to use a high chair with a wriggling one year old with their own opinion on how it should be done.
trying to learn how to use a push chair with a wriggling one year old with their own opinion on how it should be done.
trying to learn how to put on a nappy with a wriggling one year old with their own opinion on how it should be done.

etc etc etc

Just wait 'till he hits the "terrible two's" .