I totally agree with you, OP.
It is a disgrace that pregnant women are told nothing about the risks of vaginal birth. They should be discussed just as much as (if not more than) the risks of ElCS, especially where it is a 1st time mum-to-be over 35 expecting a baby over 9 lbs.
During and after DD's horrendous birth, I was told by many doctors and health professionals that "Of course it would likely be a difficult birth with at least some damage. Baby is big, mum's 1st birth and she is no spring chicken" etc. Well, nobody had told me
. I suffered non-stop for weeks like a tortured animal and DD ended up with a deformed head.
In contrast, I got my ElCS for the 2nd birth & it was easy, relaxed, and recovery was a breeze. Breastfeeding was no problem. Bonding was no issue. Baby was totally fine and didn't cry 24/7 for 6 months like the 1st one, likely because her skull plates had crossed over one another.