Personally, if there are no medical indicators like PE for an earlier CS I would ask for a CS as late as possible, preferably once labour starts so that I know that baby is actually ready to come out. But that's me.
Beckera, your story is a classic emCS after induction. Other than being 42wks, were there any other indications for induction? You could well be a slow cooker! And how reliable were the dates that were being worked to? My VBAC arrived at 42+1 scan or 40+6 lmp, is it possible that you and baby were simply not ready yet? Do you know how long your mum or gran cooked their babies?
I know that SPD is an absolute pain! And that you desperately want it over. I would want to ensure that you have considered what you would feel like after a VBAC or after a CS, would you be disapointed not to have tried or would you be happy to have elCS, only you know that answer and I think you should listen to your heart when making these decisions.
If you decide to VBAC then waiting until labour starts spontaneously, whenever that is, will be the best way to go, even if you are a late cooker. As long as there are no other indications for concern, then waiting is best.
Nonyummymummy, I don't know enough about you but what you've said so far does not give me any reason to believe that you NEED a CS at 38wks. I think that by waiting for labour to start spontaneously you would have an excellent chance of VBAC, as I know of many VBAC ladies who have had babies over 9, 10 or even 11lbs! check this out
Also cons are not experts at normal birth (they only see problems) and are not in a position to tell you whether or not you can have a VBAC. Only you can decide whether to try and by doing your research you have a very good chance! A well placed big baby putting good pressure on your cervix, with waters intact to aid rotation, will help it to dilate, that's a good thing! Big babies are not always bad!
If any of you are deliberating whether to have VBAC or elCS I have a word.doc which I would be happy to send to you, with many links for you to read and make up your own mind. I am very much pro VBAC, and it is safer than CS, but it's more important to me that you make your own informed decisions, whether that be for VBAC or elCS. Email me at klaw at macmail dot com if you would like me to send you this doc so that you can do your own research.
Oh dear, have I let my passion run a way with me? Sorry for the length of post!