not even excited......

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Hi bit of background
Ex left 6 weeks ago due to go in to hospital in 1 week to have our daughter.
Any way I am struggling to get excited about her birth. I can't even look at the baby's clothes without crying. I couldn't bring myself to get the hospital bags ready my mum did. The thought of everything that should be a happy moment isn't I just can't face it! Everyone keeps asking about names and everything else but I can't even come to pick her name! My ex has now told me he won't be coming to the birth as he can't stand to be near me. He also said he only got me pregnant to make me think he loved me all I can think about is how she is unwanted by her father and how awful I feel about her arrival. I don't know what to do???

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Your break up is very recent. Give yourself a break. Will DM be with you at the birth instead of your ex? Honestly I do think when you meet your baby it will all be OK. How you feel now is understandable. Be kind to yourself in the time you have left before she arrives.

Oh and try to think of a few names you like then decide when she is born. There is no rush.

Oh, hurt what a bastard.

I'm afraid I can only offer hand holding but I would say she is wanted by you - that's all she needs.

try not to put any pressure on yourself, you may just need to meet your daughter to know what her name should be.

Try to fill the next week with things that you enjoy. Get a massage or your nails done or read a book or watch your favourite film or eat your favourite meal or meet up with some friends or go to see family.

Personally I would go NC with ExP to eliminate any extra stress. If he doesn't want to be at the birth, so be it but you do not need him being spiteful while you're vulnerable. X

Thanks everyone I have the hospital today so been very extra emotional then saw him on the way here made it worse! My poor little boy doesn't know what's going on so trying to spend time with him before baby comes but it's hard.
He has went nc with me hasn't called text or emailed to ask how our little boy is or how my appointment went on Wednesday just hurts more tbh

then ExP has done you a favour. Write him off now - if he's that spiteful then you're better off without him. (Oh so easy for me to say, I know but it sounds like you can lean on your mum?)

Trust that you will be ok. It's all overwhelming now but you will. Each day will get a little easier in terms of your grief around the loss of your relationship.