Apologies in advance for the long post..
Basically, I had my first child in Dec 2013 & didn't have a 'labour' I was rushed in to hospital via ambulance because Id developed severe pre-eclampsia. As soon as I arrived they broke my waters and set me up on 2 drips (1 to bring on labour & another to control my BP)
I was in agony, not from contractions, but from shock. My whole body was seizing up, I couldnt stop shaking & I was carrying alot of water which I was led in for hrs so my legs/bum had become very sore & rashy!
5hrs after being induced I still hadn't experienced a single contraction, I had only dilated to 2cm & my sons heartbeat dropped so I was rushed in for an Emergency C-Sec (by this time I couldnt wait for it all to be over!)
I barely remember the procedure, and can just about remember holding my baby for the first time. The whole thing was quite traumatic & I can't / don't want to imagine having to go through a similar experience again.
SO, I'm now 31+4 with my 2nd child, I'm under consultant led care & I've told them I want another Caesarean.
They asked me why so heres what I told them:
- I'd hate to end up having another 'emergency' c-sec.
- I'm terrified of having a scar rupture.
- I've been suffering badly with piles in my current pregnancy & I don't want to make them worse! (TMI sorry!)
- I recovered amazingly from my last so, I wouldn't want the chance of having multiple wounds/scars (eg if my scar ruptures & have a huge tear down below!)
- Because my baby is measuring VERY tall I'm worried about having a huge baby (my sister had an awful VB with a 12lb 1.5oz!!) So big babies run in my family.
She seemed to listen as I was speaking, but as soon as I finished she replied with 'well I can assure you you'll have a quicker recovery with a vaginal birth'. ALL she wrote on my notes from out conversation was that I recovered well from my last birth.
I'm seeing her on a 4weekly basis, but I've just come back from my latest appt with her & she again mentioned I'm carrying an incredibly tall baby and that shes back to back - when I looked at her in panic not really knowing what that means she just said 'Oh don't worry we can still go ahead with a VBAC it'll just be a longer and slightly more painful labour'.
I'm so upset, what if I follow in my sisters shoes and have a 12lber?! Her baby got stuck and had to be dragged out (his collarbone was broke in the process!!)
I honestly thought I could elect for a C-sec especially if I've had one previously, I just feel like she's ignoring me completely and I'm at a dead end, I want to be able to look forward to meeting my little girl, but instead I find myself dreading the whole thing 
I'm not a hugely confident person, so as much as I wish I could, I never feel like I can 'argue' or 'demand' when I'm there.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!