Hi all,
I'm still finding this hard to write about, so please bear with me.
My DS was born just over 7 weeks ago by ECS. It all went well...ish. The procedure was fine and he was healthy but he didn't cry enough so I couldn't do skin to skin like I wanted to when he was first born.
My DH got to hold him but he couldnt do skin to skin because DS was so purple. The midwife kept taking him back to the table thing to do whatever it was he needed to get the purple colour down.
I couldn't have held him anyway as I was shaking so much from the epidural.
So DH was told to take DS into recovery where I would be along shortly. DS was born at 1:24. Obviously they had to stitch me up so I don't think DH and DS went away until about 2pm. I finally came into recovery at approx 3pm (I am struggling on remembering details).
My midwife had to go on a lunch break and I had a recovery nurse who was trying to get my BP down. In theatre, my BP kept dropping so the aneathatist kept giving me something to bring it back up. She realised that my BP was v low but I was not reacting to the reading... So she suspected the cuff was the wrong size/dodgy. So after all this medication to make my BP rise, in recovery with the correct size cuff on, my BP was TOO high!
So the recovery nurse was focussing on my BP and seeing if I could wiggle my toes or anything. The whole time I can hear my DS rooting... He's swaddled in DHs proud arms. My DM is also in the room and is concerned about the fact that no one is showing me how to breastfeed my newborn baby.
The recovery nurse said she wasnt allowed to show me but when she finally went to see if she could find a midwife, there was no one available.
My DM kicked up a bit of a fuss and in the end a midwife came in but I was on the ruddy phone to my Dad. I was saying a rushed goodbye but the midwife had walked out :(
Mum got upset and got the midwife to come back in again. She "showed" me how to latch my DS on and left me to it... I know now that he wasn't latched at all! I took a photo of him at my breast and the time on that is 5pm! It took them 2 hours to show me how to breastfeed and even then it wasn't successful :(
I was wheeled off into the main ward and all I can remember of my time there was the nurses making sure I was getting up and walking about. It was incredibly hard to do and lying back down made me cry out in agony :( My DH had to lower me into the bed as I couldn't do it on my own.
The nurse wanted to remove my catheter that evening but I said no as I was unable to get up quickly enough if I needed the toilet. I had to then keep on pressing the assistance button as my catheter was left for hours before it got emptied... She'd remark how full it was each time 
So the hyperglycaemic bit. DS got taken to SCBU as the doctor felt his bloods were too low... I was heartbroken. I cried all night. DH went to SCBU every hour to look at our son as I wasnt strong enough to walk all the way there.
DS was then FF by cup by a nurse on SCBU. We tried BF the following morning, but he was too sleepy to latch properly initially.
So my question is... I am a first time mum. I did not know how to breast feed. From what i remember, no one came to help me or make sure i was breast feeding once I was on the main ward... And it took 3 and a half hours before DS was even shown my breast after he was first born.
Is this why he ended up in SCBU? Thinking about his birth still makes me feel incredibly sad and heartbroken. However I try not to get hung up on it as I have a beautiful healthy boy who is happily breastfeeding away and is currently sleeping through the fireworks and DH's snoring!
Any knowledge or experiences of this sort of thing? (The SCBU stuff... Not snoring 
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Apologies... This has become quite the essay!