Hi PLibble
not a midwife, but i will offer some words if i may
I am so sorry you found DDs birth traumatic.....i really do think that writing it down is really helpful and cathartic. There are also two good organisations you can contact:
birth crisis
and
birth trauma associtaion
they can help debrief you , which is really important to help you move on ,especially before another birth
I had a similar expereince...induced due to bleeding, constant monitoring, drip, epidural, immobile in bed for hour...no progress past 2 - 3 cm...emergency c.s..followed by severe PND..due to feeling so low about the birth.
It would be, IMHO, exceptionally unusual to have the sort of pelvis that does not allow a baby to get into the ROA or LOA position....back labour would indicate an OP baby.
An active labour is the best sort..or at the least, the sort of labour where you can listen to your body, move if you want, lie down if you want, dance if you want.
I am inclined to think that the immobility excacerbated the problems you had ........
you can try
optimal foetal positioing
and
how to position baby correctly for birth
to get baby lined up for birth!
i don;t know if BP is an issue requiring constant monitoring, it might well be..what is a shame is that you don;t know why your labour happened the way it did.
FWIW - being scared and being anxious can slow and stall labour, being in control,which you clearly weren't, isnt a good start...
there is no reason to think that a vaginal birth is not possible....i had a VBAC and it was a remarkable expereince,
this is a really good site too.
yahoo VBAC group
i hope some of this helps........being strong, feeling prepared and confident for labour is half the battle !
sorry for going on.. this is something i feel really strongly about xxxx