BBC Kilroy Programme about older mums

[egascoigne]

Dear All

I am currently working on a Kilroy programme about older mums and would love to hear from any of you if this applies to you or if you have strong views on it. We are recording the programme this Wednesday 8th May so I would love to tell you more about it asap if you could call me on 0208 228 7454. I look forward to hearing from you.

Kind regards
Emma Gascoigne

How old is older? Am quite addicted to the programme - but have no desire to be on it I'm afraid!

This months She magazine has a good positive piece about mums over 30. It's a refreshing andedote to all the "you're past having kids once you're 26" tripe.

Hasn't it been done recently on this show or similar - I saw a programme not long ago debating the young vs old mother issue - at the end of the day there are good and bad parents of all ages and both sexes and at 36 I look younger than some 28 year olds and some 44 year olds probably look and feel and think younger than me. It annoys me that age is such an issue when there are many factors affecting parenting which are more important.

I saw this programme this morning, and was trying to identify possible mumsnetters - did anyone go?

leese, sadly I saw the programme too. I wasn't there though! R

Maybe we're the only saddo's on the site Rhiannon!

No I am saddo too. I watched it with interest.
What was that Hannah in the front row on about? Saying she felt odd at school as her mum was aon "older Mum" - had her when she was 29! What a twit.

Funny how although it was billed as being about older mums, it turned into a discussion about mothers who go out to work!

Did you see yesterday's? Meant to be about single dads but turned into a prog. about mothers who leave their children. Bella, the woman who had done this got absolutely zero sympathy from anyone.

Yep, I saw that Jasper - soomething a bit odd about that Bella - nothing made sense. How can you only want to leave your kids for six months to make things better, then bow to pressure and agree to give them up for good? Poor old Tilly only receiving a phonecall when it suited as she 'is only four, and what conversation can you have with a four year old?......'

Yes Hannah made me laugh too, she's obviously married young, got three perfect children and a professional career and au pair and couldn't see why anyone else should be any different! R

I thought Hannah might have been a mumsnetter!

leese, so did I! (its not me, honest)

I've never come across the aguement that Hannah used on the programme - either on mumsnet or in real life. She said that it was selfish of women to put off having children until later in life because they shouldn't put themselves before their children (because the children would be embarrassed by having an older mum). Er, I thought that was one of the main purposes of being a parent - being an embarrassment to your children!

She was a solicitor with three young children who worked full time and had a nanny yet she did not see that as not putting herself before her children. I work full-time and use a childminder for ds and am in no way against women using childcare either whilst they work outside the home or to just have a break from their children but I just thought her Hannah came across as having very odd views.

I only watched half the show so she may have gone onto a more rational explanation of her views later on ,but somehow, I doubt it!. I think if she was a mumsnetter, she would have argued her case with a bit more of a constructive case.

She may have been a 'fake'. A friend of mine used to produce a show similar to Kilroy and was always begging me and friends to appear, pretending to have been in certain situations (I never did it!).

sis I only saw the second half and Hannah did not make much sense in it. Said she was embarrassed by her mum who had her at 28!!
She didn't seem to get the point if her mum had not had her when she did, she would not exist!! - different sperm and egg if her mum had conceived 5 years earlier