I've had two elcs with both my DS'. DS1 because he had severe growth restriction and needed to be delivered at 31 weeks and wouldn't have survived an inducement. DS2 as he was overdue and induction wasn't an option due to risk of scar rupture.
With DS2 I was very keen on having a VBAC as I hadn't even had the chance to go into labour with DS1 and so much of what followed his birth wasn't in the range of normal as he spent a very long time in NICU before eventually coming home. However, I didn't have any signs of labour approaching so at 41 weeks I had another elcs.
Now I'm pregnant with my third and the consultant has already basically said that I'll definitely be having CS to deliver this one. I had pretty much assumed as much but had wanted to at least discuss the scenarios around what if I went into labour before the planned CS date. However at the initial consultant appointment, he blindsided me with something that totally hadn't even crossed my mind (not related to the pregnancy or birth) so my thoughts were all over the place and I don't feel I really had a chance to talk it through with anyone. Having checked out the hospital's guidelines, they say that a vbac after 2 cs is possible after all.
I've now had a 24 week mw appt and talked it through with my amazing mw. She has basically said that we can put a planned cs date in the diary but if I did go into labour before then, we could head into hosp and wait and see what happened. If it wasn't going well we could switch to a CS or if it was we could give it a go.
I know things can go wrong with any type of birth and there is a wealth of people on the internet of the opinion - your body, your baby, your decision which I don't agree with particularly.
Not really sure what I'm looking for - I guess some reassurance that I could give it a go and that I wasn't being reckless for wanting to do this. So if anyone else had any ideas of questions I should ask or things I should be thinking about in helping to make the decision that would be great. Have another consultant appt on Friday so would be good to go prepared with questions.