But then you can argue that about anything and could just be poor staff management, and if i cant say for sure the anaesthetist was busy the whole time, neither can you.
So despite there being several posters on here saying the same thing - it doesnt happen or if it does its because the nhs cant cope.
And again we should be grateful.
The nice guidelines also say you can have anaesthesia even for a long latent phase (which i did first time) but you wouldnt believe that for the effort it took to get it.
I think it depends on what you didnt get, so if it was say the water birth you wanted, well clearly going into that you know howmany pools the place has and if all are in use then unlucky, but there are then alternatives like analgesia.
Of course im grateful baby was born safely after a yr of ivf. But really thats irrelevant, safe delivery of the baby is minimum.
Thing is not everyone would opt for CS because it doesnt hurt everyone as much, we have different size babies, pelvis, hormonal issues (like hypothyroidism which can cause back to back) family history of breech. And you dont know till you try. But logically why would i risk the same thing happening?
But i do resent being told you are coping - that is BS you are not in someone elses body
For example ive not had any afterpains at all, though its supposed to hurt, are these people just making a fuss? They must be as its not my experience, but wait its not my body.
Or should i dismiss people with HG because i wasnt even nauseous, maybe they need to suck it up and think of the baby. Like i must have done, so arent i amazing, but really its no effort as i didnt feel ill.
Everyones experience of labour is going to be different, why arent my choices just as valid, because it costs money, if id wanted a pain relief free choice i would have gone to a mlu.
Its more damaging to deny people the pain relief they need.
Urethra- you make it sound like its asking a ridiculous amount to be able to get an anesthetist to spend 30min with you out of a 3hr window.
Im aware the nhs is in a state. They couldnt even get me on the ward -do i care about that , no, they couldnt get the paed to do a first day check for like 30hrs so we went to nicu instead, yes i can see they are busy.
Okay so you go tell people say on this childbirth section your opinion, that they should be grateful if they can get an epi, as even if you are screaming, begging for it, have it on your birth plan, asked for it as soon as you could, they may be too busy to see you (even in a 3-4hr window), but its ok as you should know this is the nhs they are busy you couldnt possibly think they could page someone else .
Maybe the hospital.leaflet should say epidural (but only if we arent busy in a CS/EMCS)
I think its damaging to tell people its pain free, you can give birth at home, you should be able to cope with g&a, when noone knows how that person will feel, but obviously it suits some people.
I guess being discharged with a well done rather than an apology for failing me and an explanation of what happened is really not what i wanted.
And i feel angry that its probably happening to someone else right now, they go in trusting the hospital, come out mis-trusting them and very angry for having their pain minimised.
I now wish i had called my mum in to advocate for me as they did listen to her for dc1
But i , wrongly thought once i was 5cm i would get the epi.
Oh well i see mw tomorrow, think i might make a compliant.
Not that i expect anything from it