Hello I'm 38 weeks pg and still haven't decided what sort of birth to go for. Change my mind on a daily basis and am getting quite irritated at my own indecisiveness.
Ds born 2 and a half years ago by em cs. I was fully dilated, failed ventouse, a bit of foetal distress, blah blah. Found cs recovery to be surprisingly quick (was cycling into town three weeks later, which looking back was a bit idiotic).
Anyway was all gung ho about a vbac and have very pro-consultant, but then his underling doctor was saying to me "what you really don't want is an em cs at full dilation" (and judging by quick dilation first time round is what I'd end up with if it came to a cs).
Anyway, it seems to me a successful vbac is the "best" I can hope for, followed by a planned cs, followed by an emergency. Oh, and a nasty vbac with loads of tearing is I think for me the worst option given that I've already got my cs scar, why have another somewhere else. What I don't know, in terms of safety, recovery, discomfort, is where these births come on a scale. If an elective is way better than an em cs and not much worse than a vbac, then that's an appealing option. If a vbac is way better, then I should go for it etc, etc.
It's such a blooming difficult decision without the aid of a crystal ball.
Arggh, Pol
ps have another consultant's appt on Monday to make final decision. They are being very patient with me. Oh and dh's work means that being on time or early would give us much better paternity leave. Plus he would much rather I have a planned cs as found the whole first birth terrifying.