DefinitelyMaybe - it's really not helpful to describe ALL vaginal breech births as 'lots more painful and scary than normal births'... 
You can talk about your own experience of it, but that's where your expertise ends.
A good friend of mine gave birth to her fourth baby vaginally, who was breech - she said if anything it was easier than some of her previous births.
The (sadly true) diminishing experience of breech births amongst doctors and midwives is a vicious circle. Fewer women choose to have them vaginally, so fewer medical professionals have experience of them, which makes women even less likely to feel confident trialling a breech birth.
My last pregnancy was breech for a lot of the third trimester. I saw an osteopath (whom I can recommend) and a few days later my baby had turned. In labour however, my midwife thought she'd flipped back to breech! We'll never know if she had or not, but when she was born not long after, she was head first. I was at home, in a pool, and no way was I going to be pressured to go to hospital and be put in stirrups. That would not have helped me to birth a breech baby; it would have panicked me completely.
So try moxibustion, as suggested by a pp, also osteopathy and /or acupuncture. It's all non-invasive and natural, so low risk and surely worth a try. Let me know if you're in London and want the contact details of my osteopath.
Good luck!