It should be looking at planned ELCS verses planned VBs (which include EMCS). The vast majority of research does not do this, and therefore only has limited usefulness. Its not useless but it can only really be used in certain contexts.
NICE, however, did look at this for first time mothers when redoing the guidance for CS in 2011. However there is nothing for subsequent pregnancies and this does not take into account any subsequent risks for future pregnancies, nor does it show how unbalanced risk is and how much it is stacked for certain groups of women, such as women over 35 or women who are obese.
Having spent a lot of time looking at the research available and what gaps there currently are, I think you are looking for something that would be frankly impossible to do because of the complexity of it. You have complained that the RCOG stuff was difficult to read and understand, but that's really the point. You can not break this down into simplistic stuff accessible to all because of its very nature. There has to be some generalisation in there somewhere even for clinicians. Just about any data you get will be flawed in someway, and that's part of the point. You need several different sources and methods to draw from and to be used in conjunction with each other rather than just 'facts' which really aren't 'facts' anyway.
Besides which if this was done, we would be in serious danger of ending up being dictated by these statistics with women in certain groups being effectively forced down certain routes, because the issue is not with the information available but more with the attitudes of health care staff. Routes which for various reasons they may not be happy with and would prefer the alternative. We wouldn't be any better off than we currently we are.
The NHS is driven and run by targets and policies rather than on women centred care sadly. And that's your issue more than the actual risks themselves tbh. We do need more discussion on the subject and more focus on how women end up with long term complications which are a largely taboo subject. But I don't think this is the way forward. You simply end up confusing women and making them unnecessarily fearful in many cases. Women fall into two groups; women who want as much information as possible to make an informed decision and to control their anxieties and women who control their anxieties by deliberately avoiding this information and just getting on with things. How you balance the need of both groups without ignoring the other is something of an enigma.
I understand that you had a particularly difficult birth, and ended up in a situation which you were unaware could happen. That's not a good state of affairs, but in trying to come to terms with it, you are projecting onto others which is equally not informing women in a balanced way. You can not approach this, with a certain agenda without understanding the limitations of the system, how statistics work properly and how your own bias will drive discussion a certain way because of the emotion you have invested in it. Put simply, you need to resolve some of your own issues before you can campaign effectively on this, as its blinding you to certain things. I have every sympathy for you, and hope that you can find the peace you are looking for, but anger is only useful if it is channelled properly.