Advice needed from mums!

[Katy44]

Hi everyone,
I wasn't sure where this conversation should go so apologies if it's in the wrong area.
I'm 11 weeks pregnant with my first, and due on the 23rd of April. My husband's cousin is getting married on the 7th of May - exactly 2 weeks after!
I know everyone is different, but what, realistically, are the chances we'd be able to go to even part of the ceremony? Obviously if baby is 2 weeks late - no chance, but if baby is about on time or even up to a week late, what are the chances we'll feel up to popping in for the ceremony at least? I plan to breastfeed. I've also read somewhere that you shouldn't expose babies under 6 weeks to public places, as their immune systems aren't fully developed - is that true or just another scare story?
You might all laugh and say there's no way we'll be going to the wedding, but I'd hate to say no for definite and then find out it would have been possible!

One week after having DS1 I went to my nieces christening without a problem. You can take your baby wherever you want to as soon as you leave the hospital, trust me staying at home all day with a newborn will drive you crazy! I took DS1 to Tesco on the way home from hospital to show all my friends that worked there

No time to read everyone else's, but I wouldn't have been up to it, and prob wouldn't have wanted to be on my own either. If between the two of you you decide that dh will go, can you get your mum or someone else to be with you?

It's important to get out of the house early on, as it really does make you feel human again. My ds definitely slept better in the pram surrounded by lots of noise!

Re the wedding however, I couldn't have done it at 2 weeks. Between the back pain, knee pain, bleeding, leaky boobs and constant bfing, I would have just been miserable. By 4 weeks I may have considered it. Everyone's different though - I'm getting married in March, and a couple we know who are due 2 weeks before are adamant that they're going to be there for the full evening, even though it's about a 90 minute drive! We'll see...

You might find an excuse to dress up is just what you need to feel like a person again. My staple outfit for anything more interesting than a trip to the shops was black maternity trousers with a pretty wrap dress over the top... hides the tummy but flatters big boobs. Wearing a vest underneath allows for non-exposing bfing as the dress can just be pulled to the side.

Anyway, don't feel pressured to decide yet, as you can't predict how you'll feel. Congrats on the pregnancy!

I was back at work in 2 weeks. It depends on your birth. If it's fairly normal then I don't see why not go to the wedding. You need to check if babies are allowed. No one keeps babies under lock and key for 6 weeks and if you're breastfeeding they have your immunity anyway.

Sorry for the late update :) ds was more beautiful than the bride in his perfect white sleepsuit and very well behaved for ten days. Hes now almost a teenager and gets on well with his nine year old sister. Wedding and marriage all good :) will update in a decade.

Ps I was the op and this was my first ever thread on mn. I have had wine and am feeling nostalgic :)

I wonder if this is the latest update ever

I will be told to cancel the cheque
Actually that's a poitb, did we buy them a pressie? Clearly they've forgiven us.
Oh and this marriage has resulted in a little cousin for my pfb, the star of this thread

Lol at me asking if they're allowed out before six weeks. When baby two came along in 2009, I left her with the nursery staff for a out half an hour as i settled ds in. I suspect she was about three days old. Her poor little immune system :o

These days the thread would be about babies not being invited to the wedding!

Awww Stealth weren’t just you just the naive little sweetie in those days!

Oh how times have changed 🤣

Thanks, I think :o

great update , this has given me a good laugh

I've been waiting 13 years for this update! Some posters have no consideration

What did you wear Stealth?

No idea. Just hope I did actually get dressed! Ds wore a pure white sleep suit, and was generally described as the most beautiful thing there. Even by the bride.

Love this thread! StealthPolarBear dd1 was also due on 23rd April of that year! How funny. She was very late and I was still in hosp on 7th May so I'd never have been at the wedding looking serene! I'm in awe you made it with your sanity intact

Oh hang on - I'm a year out!!! But I'm not sure I'd recovered enough to have been serenely at a wedding even a year later 😂

Ouch! Ds was four days late :) is your DD a year older or younger?

She's a year older! Nearly a teen now!