I think my waters just broke

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I am 41 weeks today so obviously more than ready but am in the middle of really crap time.

My fil is on his last legs and is currently recieving palliative care so my husband is about to head to the hospital to see him (and probably last few hours together). Am I being ridiculous not to tell him that I think my waters have gone until later? I am really emotional so not sure am thinking straight but was going to call my mum and sister once he has gone.

I'd let him go, yes. Then call for some support from family if you need it and perhaps see about getting it checked to see if it is definitely your waters. Any other niggles or pains?

What exactly happened? My waters went first with both labours and I had a long time before the babies arrived (31 and 38 hours respectively). I did know it was my waters both times though. Unmistakable.

What a difficult time for you.

How're you doing OP? I think your idea is actually v sensible.
Is this your first baby? If so, hopefully it won't be too quick.
You prob ought to decide now what the cutoff point is tho - a time limit or cms dilated etc, so that you don't feel guilty when you need to call him. Factor in journey time too!
Good luck xx

Yes having cramping pains intermittently every 15-20mins so nothing too close together.
There was no gush but I stood up and realised my pants and pyjama bottoms were quite wet.

he has just gone out and wants me to go to my mums anyway just in case something happens so am going to give the midwife a call and then head over.
I am okay just a bit overwhelmed. It is our first so I don't think I need to worry timewise (famous last words). Going to start timing the cramps etc. is just all really rubbish and not how I imagined having my first baby would be

Oh OP its not the best timing but this baby is ready to come so it wont be long and your little bundle will be here.

Are you going to the same hospital your FIL is at? Practically that will be good.for your OH he can come across to you at the last possible moment.

Let MWs know about your waters, and once you feel you cant cope with the pain, head in

Best wishes to you all.

Oh Dazed, I know what you mean, it's not ideal is it, but think of it this way: you are in the kind of relationship where you're willing to go through labour without him so he can have a few precious last hours with his DF - you're a kind woman and your baby is coming into a loving family. Hope that makes sense?
My MIL died a couple of months before DS1 arrived, and the aftershock was still in effect - it does colour the experience slightly, but also gave DH focus at an extremely hard time.
Just don't cut it too fine - try to give him time to leave his DF quietly rather than running out the door! Xx

Thanks everyone
I phoned the ward (is a different hospital but not too far) and they have asked me to go in just to have a check but likely coming home at some point. My mum is going to take me down just now and can phone my husband once been checked over etc.
I know will always be tinged with sadness but can't wait to have my wee one here

x

Hope you're doing well Dazed! Fingers crossed for you on all counts xx

Thinking of you OP. Hoping all is well for you

Thanks for all the kind wishes. It was false alarm on the waters just turns out I am very fluidy (sorry far tmi) and having very sporadic contractions but all stopped.
Sadly my fil passed away yesterday evening. We had all been there for hours and popped out for some fresh air and he just drifted away.
Is all so strange

I'm sorry for your loss. Hope your new baby arrives safely x

I'm sorry Dazed, have been thinking of you.
Best of luck for the last few (hopefully!) days of your pregnancy, and safe arrival of your little one. X