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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Induction and partner being sent home

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Waggamamma · 11/09/2014 19:41

I'm due to.be induced next week. I've been told to go to the antenatal/postnatal ward for 3pm, if I'm not in established labour and moved to labour ward by 9pm my partner will be asked to go home and return after 11am the next day. They will call him I go into established labour in that time.

This is making me really anxious, I do not want to stay overnight or go through early labour by myself. I don't expect the rules to be changed just for me I'm just really stressing about how I will cope alone, it's not how I had imagined things. We live 20-30min drive from hospital.

I had a sweep two days ago, she said my cervix is high but she could feel waters bulging under babies head and they would likely skip pessary and go straight to the gel.

Can anyone share their experiences of induction? Was your dp sent home? did you need to labour alone? How long was labour from having the gel?

This is dc2. Hoping i go into labour myself over the weekend.

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Szeli · 14/09/2014 05:10

I was induced on delivery at around 6pm (drip) and I never dilated even after 4 litres of the hormone. OH was there the whole time until I had the emcs 11pm the next night. Never a mention of him going home, he could have stayed postnatal too in the chair but he needed a bed and a shower.

fingers crossed you'll go into labour yourself x

Lucyadams184 · 15/09/2014 12:58

I was induced with my son. My husband was sent home about 10 PM. Things started moving as soon as he left typically. I was only 2cm though so they didn't call him. Then when I was checked again I was 9cm so he got called in and he only just made the birth. I wish things would change and partners could stay. I wonder how many dads do miss the birth. Luckily with my second child was on time.

MsBug · 16/09/2014 14:43

Ime lots of women labour at night rather than in the daytime, so it's more likely that things will kick off while your partner is at home.

Salene · 16/09/2014 16:48

I'm in the same boat, I'm going in on Sunday to be induced with first baby

Hubby allowed to stay on ward 9am to 9pm then home which is 50 mins drive away

It's upsetting me the thought of being alone and he might miss it

MsBug · 16/09/2014 17:03

Salene do you have any friends he could stay with near to the hospital? If not I would consider booking into a travel lodge.

Although with first babies labour is normally pretty slow and he should have plenty of time, especially if you call him sooner rather than later.

Salene · 16/09/2014 17:20

Yeah he saying he might just get a local hotel, he really does not want to miss the big event

Szeli · 16/09/2014 20:56

are these uk hospitals sending partners of induced women home? i was at st marys manchester and whilst it failed on so many levels at least i was never alone!

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/09/2014 21:01

Its hard though as if you arent in labour, you really need to be in antenatal not on the labour ward, and its just not suitable for there to be a dad at every bedside in sometimes up to six bay rooms all through the night. Where and what else can they really do?

StarlightMcKenzie · 16/09/2014 21:04

Tell them you cannot cope with the drip without your partner being there and the second he leaves you're taking the damn induction line outta your arm.

I have NO doubt it is what I would do.

lunalovegood84 · 16/09/2014 21:09

At my hospital the pessaries were administered on the ward, which had restricted visiting hours. Once you were dilated enough you were moved to a private room in delivery where they would carry out ARM and administer the drip. Partners were allowed to stay at all times.

StarlightMcKenzie · 16/09/2014 21:12

Having said that, the chances of them getting a drip in my arm in the first place would be extremely slim.

LittleBearPad · 16/09/2014 21:18

Went in at 5pm as waters broke 24 hours before but no contractions. Suggested DH went home at 11pm. Pessary done at 1am I think, no effect. DH back at 9 the next day. Drip started about 10am. Dd born at 3am the following morning. I was quite glad he had a decent sleep.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/09/2014 21:20

The drip requires constant monitoring on the machine anyways so they wouldnt administer that unless you are on the delovery suite in which case dh can stay. The gels and pessaries etc can take a while to work and dont require constant monitoring so could be administered and then you sent to antenatal.

Szeli · 16/09/2014 22:04

ah you're all talking about ward based early stages. thought folk had been on the drip on a ward!

BB01 · 18/09/2014 15:38

The rules on my induction ward said partners had to go home at night but mine ended up staying as even though I was only in early labour I was in absolute agony

StarlightMcKenzie · 18/09/2014 16:49

I never get the agony bit tbh. The drip is controllable right? Sure pain is a reasonable expectation, but agony implies either the endorphins have not had time to build up or that the pain relief offered is inappropriate.

I have never been induced so I can't say this for definite, but when I was in labour with my first I was contemplating suicide rather than face another contraction. If it was simply caused by a needle in my hand, that needle would no longer be IN my hand.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 18/09/2014 16:54

The drip gives drugs which force your body to dilate. Removing the needle doesnt remove the drug from your body. Ot kust prevents more getting in.

I will be refusing the drip.during this delivery, however removing the drip halfway through its use would have left me halfway down a road i dodnt want to be on amd felt there wasnt a way out from.

StarlightMcKenzie · 18/09/2014 16:56

Perhaps, but at least you would know it wouldn't get worse.

It wouldn't have been even a conscious decision with me. It would just be out.

Szeli · 18/09/2014 17:24

i wouldnt wish the drip on anybody.

your body has no time to get used to the pain as it throws you in at the deep end.

but when your baby is in distress and they need to get them out, trying that before a csection suits more people.

petalsandstars · 18/09/2014 17:39

Similar to rubberstamp. Nothing from pessary at 1400hrs he was sent home at 2100 then contractions very strong and frequent from 2200. I called him at about 2330 and he arrived a few mins before the birth

StarlightMcKenzie · 18/09/2014 17:54

How could it ever be acceptable to induce a stressed baby? That makes no sense to me.

Szeli · 18/09/2014 19:11

Makes no sense to me either - but it happens. In my case I ended up with a section anyway; wish they'd done that first then I'd be able to walk properly now!

Women are also advised to have an induction for a baby being too big, too small, moving less, size of mother, being 'overdue' amongst others. Most women take that advice for the sake of their babies.

I'd suggest to anyone, take extended monitoring over an induction if you can but then I'm not on anyone's medical team!

ellenjames · 18/09/2014 20:47

My dh missed ds1's birth as they sent him home and never rang him when I went into labour wouldn't trust them again!!

LittleBearPad · 18/09/2014 22:51

There are no endorphins though Starlight. There's no natural buildup.

StarlightMcKenzie · 19/09/2014 07:10

Your body makes endorphins regardless of how the pain is generated. But if the drip is too fast for your body , you don't make enough quickly enough.

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