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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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When you were in labour with DC2+ what happened to other DC?

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BabyHaribo · 23/05/2014 20:07

My parents are going to take care of DS when the time comes.

I've always assumed that they would come over to mine and then stay as long as necessary.

But with DS I laboured all day at home before being ready to go to hospital. There was lots of noise from me and I don't really want DS seeing me like that.

Am wondering if it would be better to ask parents to take him to their house?

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MistletoeBUTNOwine · 23/05/2014 20:09

Dd was already on a sleepover at my mums so we just called at 7am with the news

CarCiKoTab · 23/05/2014 20:10

If that makes it easier for you do that, I'm sure they would be happy to do whatever makes you happy. When you pack your hospital bag unless you have already done that, pack your DS a bag and give them a spare key, just in case they need more items.

All my children went to the in-laws house. My children did see me briefly in labour and they took it ever so well, they was really helpful and caring it was lovely!

Doobydoo · 23/05/2014 20:12

Had elective section.Dp and ds1 drove me to hospital the evening before and left me....I had ds2 in the morning and dp and ds1 arrived just after we both came out of theatre.

youbethemummylion · 23/05/2014 20:13

MIL came over at 3 in the morning and looked after DS1 until DH came back at about 8 then MIL took DS for a sleepover that night as DS2 was poorly after birth and I wasnt discharged same day as planned. Only went into labour at 2ish and DS2 born at 6 am so DS1 didnt see me in labour at all.

Liara · 23/05/2014 20:15

Ds1 was safely asleep in the room next door. Woke up at 2am and came into bed with me and his new brother. Possibly my best memory in my life is his face when he came over and I asked him 'would you like to see your brother?'

Doobydoo · 23/05/2014 20:17

Liara that is lovely.

SizzlesSit · 23/05/2014 20:22

Started getting strong contractions at 8pm and warned my mum we might be ringing her in the night.

DH slept in the spare room and I barely slept all night with contractions. For about the 5th time in his life DS actually slept through to my great relief.

I held on as long as possible so everyone else could sleep as much as possible but cracked at 6am. Woke DH, rang my mum. She got a taxi over and we used the same taxi to go to hospital.

My mum looked after DS all day. DS2 was born at 9am so my mum and DS1 met him that afternoon. For the rest of my stay my mum looked after DS in the day at our flat and DH evenings/nights.

ThatBloodyWoman · 23/05/2014 20:23

My dd1 went to my parents house.

Booville3 · 23/05/2014 20:25

Liara that has brought a tear to my eye!

Liara · 23/05/2014 21:00

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Nunyabiz · 26/05/2014 00:39

Ok this hasn't happened yet but here is our plan.
DD is 3. We have no family in this country. Good friend and her DH who live nearby has very very kindly offered to help is out (she has small DD and her DH is SAHD).

We discussed this plan: if it is night time that I go into labour, she or her DH come over to our house and possibly stay the night in spare room so as not to disturb DD in the middle of the night. I will try to labour at home for as long as possible but considering I'm already 2cm dilated and not having contractions yet, I suspect it will be quite a quick labour (I hope ) hence i will be heading to hospital as soon as I need to and friend will take DD to her place in the morning/drop her at nursery etc- depending on which day it is. I have a bag packed for her in either case.

If it's during the day I have asked for friend to come over and collect DD as soon as she can.

She knows it could be an extra night in hospital give or take and so is more than happy to have to stay however long she needs.

DD knows her well (loves her) and I have explained - as best you can to a 3 hear old! That when mummy has her baby sister she will stay with Aunty (friend) for a little while, while mummy goes to the hospital and then come and see us in the hospital.

Kind of winging it!

MasterFlea · 26/05/2014 07:55

My PIL minded 2 dcs in our house. They live 2.5 hours away so had their own overnight bags packed in advance. Came at 2am and stayed with us for 5 nights as DH hadn't started his paternity leave.

We had agreed for them to stay until I got out of hospital but they were very adaptable to staying longer.

Hazchem · 27/05/2014 01:56

You can also prep DS so he understands what is happening during labour. I saw my first birth at 2.5 years old and am not scarred or scared about birth or bodies in anyway. If you are likely to be noisy and are worried showing DS some short films of birth and what happens might help him to understand. IF that is something you would like to think about here are 30 video of childbirth the page is about how to prepare children for attending birth.
Obviously not saying you have to but just thought I'd throw out another option.

notquiteruralbliss · 03/06/2014 22:26

My younger ones were born at home and older ones were at the births, in and out of the pool and very much involved. When my youngest was born, her 3 older sisters sat in a row taking it in turns to hold her. I think she was almost an hour old by the time I got to hold her properly.

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