With respect, I'm going through the NHS and have had no issue what so ever in having my request for an ELCS listened to. I have anxiety which is the basis of my request, but they have been incredibly supportive. I have seen a lot of other threads from women who have particular psychical medical histories who have chosen an ELCS and been completely supported under the NHS too.
I do appreciate that this isn't the case everywhere in the UK though. But its wrong to suggest that you only get this sympathetic and objective discussion within the private sector. For many women in the UK, the NHS is the only choice either by location or by finance and it is important that they know that it is possible under its umbrella.
I would also be cautious about what a consultant's opinion might be, simply because there is a bias despite what you might think. Surveys done in both the US and UK have show that consultants are far more likely to have an ELCS themselves or their partners have an ELCS than the general population. They are not necessarily as objective as you might initially think. They are just approaching the subject from a different perspective.
Interesting article debating subject from the Guardian.
Interestingly midwives are much more likely want a more natural birth.
You do have to look at the reasons why there is this difference. And also consider why, if ELCS are supposedly 'worse' statistically than a VB, are so many consultants making the decision themselves or advising their partners to take that route? They are more educated than the general population on the subject, so you'd think they would understand risk more than most.
I think the answer is in part from the fact they are more likely to be involved in births that have gone wrong, and had to clear up the consequences unlike midwives who will see far more straightforward VBs, so the risk appears very distorted. Also they are more likely to have smaller families and leave having children until late, when there is more chance of complications.
So is it a purely educated decision, or are there more emotional and less scientific influences also at play?
I think it shows more that we should have choice and that both options have positive benefits over the other and each carries different risks that different individuals may find more acceptable than the other and this is a very personal issue. I don't think it necessarily shows either to be more dangerous than the other - they have to be safe enough for both groups who work in the field and understand the potential complications for each to think its safe enough to potentially risk their life or long term health (or that of their partners). I don't think there is an overall right answer, simply one that individuals might be more suited to over the other because they have different preferences over what they feel is the biggest and worse risk to them on a personal level.
tak1ngchances I actually think that you've simply picked a route where you are more likely to come across likeminded people or people more likely to support the choice you have already made in part rather than a route where you are more likely to get objective discussions.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. As you can see from what I've put, I've made a decision along similar lines (and indeed sort out and actively choose a hospital which I felt would support that decision without pressure or judgement), but you should be at least aware that those discussions may not offer you quite the lack of bias you might be seeking or think you have.