Okay 4 weeks to go - how do i stack the odds in my favour for a VBAC

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after a nightmare first time round i finally agreed to try for a vbac but after a row with dh at the weekend i dont feel tooo confident - help me feel more cofiednet and is there stuff i should/could do do make me more relaed and leaa fearful?, thansk

I had a LSCS first time round as DD was breech.

Then had a successful VBAC with DS. I am quite small hipped and occasionally felt panic stricken as helpful people would look sceptical re my chances of a successful vaginal delivery.

I thought, if my mum did it , so could i(we are a similar size)

And , I thought i will be confident and strong about having a normal delivery, but also admitted to myself that if things weren't progressing well, I could always change to have a section.
Did also have epidural so felt full of enregy for the pushing bit, and did need ventouse to help lift him out.
Good luck, you'll be fine

sounds good what is LSCS -sorry if daft question.

Lower Segment Caesarean Section ie caesarean

oh i see, i am small as well i am 5ft and have a narrow pelvis - its all such a nightmare just feeling low today about it all and how i am going to cope with two kids.

My neighbour had her first child by c section as she has a small pelvis. She had her second naturally before the first was 2 years old.

My first child was born by emergency section and I had my next 2 naturally.

I don't know why you have rowed with your partner but it is your body and I think he has to explain his reasons for why he feels the way he does, as you do to him, but ultimately you could do without rowing about something so emotive. Don't be bullied in to something you don't want. The main thing is why was the first baby a section? Get that sorted and you should be able to work out what to do for this baby. It isn't once a section, always a section anymore. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I had an emergency section after a 36hr labour and only making it to 8cm with dd1. I was told I would have to have a section this time (I also have only 4 weeks to go) but I have stuck to my guns throughout all my apppointments, that i want a VBAC and have finally seen a consultant who is very pro-VBAC and has answered all my questions and calmed my fears, so I feel much better equipped mentally that I will be able to do it this time.

I am also only 5ft and have a small pelvis, however, my mother is 4ft 10in and a size 6 and managed to have me and my brother naturally!!!

I was feeling v disappointed at the thought of another section (it may still happen, I know) but I want to give myself the chance to 'have a go' so at least I can say I tried.

Sorry, bit of a ramble but hope it makes sense.

sorry to hear that hhope its better for you this time round

What do you mean by "finally agreed to try for a VBAC". Who wants the VBAC? you? Or were you talked into it? I think it's important for you to gather all the facts, make your choice, and then get whay YOU want. Was the row about the VBAC or something unrelated?

Camera - your pelvis may be small on the outside, but it's the space inside that counts! I shall be attempting a VBAC very shortly - due on 21st of this month - I'm also just under 5ft, with a hip measurement of 33" when not pg - both my MW and consultant are confident I can at least have a go. My mother is smaller than me (4ft 10), also slim hipped, and she had 3 children naturally, my aunts also are the same height and shape - again, no problems with delivery.

What I'm trying to do to assist my chances in success is ensuring baby is in the right position (ie not back-to-back) I do this by following the optimal fetal positioning advice my MW gave me. Also, I will be trying to ensure I keep upright in labour - I shall be taking my birthing ball with me and insisting that my examinations be done in the position I feel most comfortable in. Also,I've been listening to music to help relax - will be taking the same to hospital with me for labour.

Camera, it's important to have a good, supportive partner as well - rows happen, forgiveness and forgetting usually follow, If your dh supported you in your birth before, I'm sure he'll be there for you again.

Speak to your MW about fetal positioning - knowing that you've done all in your power possible to help prepare for your VBAC should help you get your confidence back. My POV is if it works, great, if not, then hey, I tried - I still get a baby at the end. Good luck!