I'm so sorry for her, and your, loss. Was it a boy or a girl? My daughter, Scarlett, was stillborn in Dec 2010, was was my 4th child but my husband's first. We found out she had died at 37 weeks and then went on to be induced. It started on the 5th of Dec and she was born on the 6th, she died on the 2nd though. It was quick once things got started but she was also breech and born that way.
My dd3 (so my next baby after her) was born at 34 weeks in Feb 2012 after being induced. It was an odd labour, they started me off with gel but nothing happened and overnight they had emergencies come in for the nicu and there was no space for my baby so they didn't carry on with the inducement. I asked to be allowed home for the next evening and as nothing had happened my consultant was happy for me to go. I'd had steroids already too. Then I went home and started having contractions during the night. It got very intense and I ended up going back in the morning as it was hurting! I'd convinced myself it was only fake labour from the previous gel I'd had but when I arrived I was 7cms!
About 45 mins after getting to hospital my dd3 was born, back to back so it was very fast. I had skin to skin with her and breastfed her and she was taken away to the nicu after that, it was quite a short while. She stayed in for 2 weeks and needed cpap, very nearly had to be ventilated even with the steroids. She is 2 in just over a week.
I've recently had dd4, she's now 13 weeks old and things went downhill during pregnancy again with her and she needed to be born. They wanted to induce me at 36 weeks but I simply couldn't go through with it. My consultant and everyone involved were very understanding. I had steroids again and at 37 weeks she was born by c section. I really just couldn't be induced again even though I thought I could. It felt like I had a breakdown to be honest. I couldn't go in on the induction day and a midwife ended up coming to my home where we talked and she spoke to the hospital again. I spoke to my consultant and she, being a lovely woman, was perfectly understanding and agreed to do a section.
It was terrifying and something I'd never thought I could handle but I did and she is now doing very well. I left just over 24 hours after my section as I couldn't wait to get home and hate hospitals. I've since developed dvts but they think that's from the pregnancy so I'm on fragmin for another 3 months now, been about 3 months already. I was so scared that I was going to die at first.
Anyway, long post but if I can help at all then please post or pm me. Hugs and thinking of you all. x