Should I request a c-section?

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I have given birth naturally twice before. I'm not keen to repeat the experience.

The reasons I think a c-section might make sense for me are as follows

1. my two previous babies have been huge, 9.6llb and 9.3llb (context, I am a size ten)

1. my most recent birth involved a 'shoulder dystocia'. I think this is a fancy term for 'baby got stuck'. the midwives seem to be taking this very seriously as a risk to the new baby as it can repeat. I've been refered to a consultant for this reason.

1. I was pushing for hours each time and had second degree tears. I know many people have worse but I'm not sure my pelvic floor can take another battering. last time it took me about a year to have an orgasm again. I'd be really embarrassed to talk to anyone about this but it is a concern of mine that any future damage would be permanent.

1. I'm older this time. 39. which I know carries higher risks generally.

1. I have a history of depression. this is another reason why I have been referred to a consultant.

1. I hate childbirth!

I'm not one to make a fuss normally but I'm really beginning to feel that a c-section might really be the best option for me, given I've already had a second labour which was no better than the first, in fact, it was worse. I don't think they'll suggest it unless I do. I've already had my booking in.

Any advice or experiences very gratefully received. have also posted in pregnancy

Of course you can ask for a CS. Why not? You've had 2 pretty traumatic births so it makes complete sense to me that you would not want a third.
You sound a bit like you feel guilty asking, why is that?
It's your body and your baby. Sure the hospital would rather cope with a calm planned CS than a traumatic extended risky birth? No?

Would definitely go for c/s after two traumatic births like yours. The first planned c/s is very safe - the risks with c/s go up after you've had two or three and I doubt that you plan such a big family.

Good luck and please tell us how you get on.

Definitely go for csection..problems with pelvic floor can be so upsetting and you had shoulder dystocia last time

I think you should go with what you want, a c section. You have medical grounds because of the previous shoulder dystocia with dc2. I don't see them arguing with you.

I have almost exactly the same dilemma except my baby didn't get stuck, long labours with both. Feotal distress the first time with forceps delivery and ventouse the second. I'm not sure my poor battered lady bits could take another hit either. I have already discussed my fears with my mw but I'm scared of a cs too. Don't know why in this day and we can't beam them out yet!

not fast yes I would definitely like to beam it out! shame modern science isn't there yet on that one!

twins you are right I do feel a bit sort of in the wrong for asking for a c-section but I guess I should't really. I will try to be more confident about it.

I will definitely request it but my next appointment is not for a while. I will let you know how I get on!