Home birth but no birth partner...Anyone else do this?

[Shellywelly1973]

Im planning a home birth with dc6. Dp will be around but we have 3 dc at home & 2 of the dc's have SNs. So unless its school time or the middle of the night, dp will have to deal with the other dc.

I am not fussed by this at all. But, im concerned how the mws might be about me being on my own.

I don't want a doula. I don't have any close friends I would consider asking to be my birth partner.

We would need to employ a carer & babysitter to care for the other dc...thats just not a realistic option.

Do has anyone else had a home birth without a birth partner? Was it ok?

TIA!

i dont have any experience with home births but i would have thought if its ok with you and your dp and you explain the situation to your mw she will understand and do her best to support you.

i did give birth to my last dd without my partner i missed having a hand to hold but you just get through it. he felt it more as he missed the whole thing he was outside but wasn't allowed in.

how does your dp feel about missing the birth

I had a hb with no 3, dc1/2 slept through. Had dc4 in hospital with doula but she came very late on. Mw very supportive, even saying one would be my birth partner '

I had a home birth with DS3 and had arranged to have my Mum and DH there. But when the time came, I suddenly didn't want anyone around me and kicked everyone out of the room except for one of the 2 midwives. They were all fine with that, in fact I think it made the midwife's job easier. I was certainly happier without people asking me questions and just needed to be in my own zone, in complete silence so that I could concentrate on the job!
I don't think your midwife will have a problem with that at all. The only issue is, that if you do need to be rushed to hospital as an emergency,you might want someone you know with you.
As for your DP missing the birth, well presumably if you are in your own homw, he can pop his head round the door for the final bit!
Hope it all goes well!

DC2 was born at home with no birth partner - DH was out taking DC1 to toddler group as he'd woken up and I was well progressed in active labour.

It was an excellent birth. I had and still have no issues with not having a birth partner. It meant I wasn't responsible for anyone else, and didn't have to worry about how I was coming over.

I loath the idea of a doula (I would spend the whole time feeling responsible for her, worrying about whether she was having a good time, about how annoying I was etc). I have no sisters and would not contemplate having my mum or MIL there (even if they had wanted to be there, which I'm pretty sure they didn't). So it was me and 2 midwives. Excellent.

Thanks for the replies.

Dp thinks I should have the baby in hospital...he is concerned 'something' will go wrong. He's optimistic baby will turn up during the night like 3 of the dc.

As much as I love dp, hes an absolutely rubbish birth partner. With our last dc I remember feeling so sad that he was so useless, I had a little cry by myself in the birth centre.

I do feel sorry for dp possibly missing the birth but all things considered, I think he's getting the better deal!
I don't feel the need for a birth partner. I'm worried the mw will irritate me whilst im in labour! Lol. I asked the mws to leave during my last 3 labours & only called them when I was ready to push. I need space & privacy when im labouring.

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