To send a birth congrats card or not?

[onlytheone]

Just received news of friend giving birth last weeksbut she has been in intensive care since. Baby is fine. People are delaying sending congrats cards to her. What do you think?

If baby is fine, I think I would send a congratulations on teh birth of your lovely baby card - if mum is ill, it may cheer her up a bit. I think if I were her and in ICU without any congrats cards I'd be feeling a bit cheated ( stuck in hospital during baby's 1st few days etc and not even a card in recognition of the fact baby is here....IYSWIM). Can't her DP/DH, mum, dad, friend bring the cards in for her to see

Definitely send a card. Can only make her feel better.

Agree with Jessajam. If I was well enough to notice no one had congratulated me I'd be dissappointed. Send card.

Sorry to hear about your friend. A friend of mine was in a similar situation and after she recovered, she told me she was very disappointed not to have received many congratulations cards. She was thrilled to have a new baby, even though they were both very ill for a few weeks. You could include a personal message, to say congratulations on the new baby and hope that she recovers soon.

Absolutely send one, I would.

My sister was in IC after having her daughter and she loved getting cards, it really cheered her up.

Thanks everyone. Your thoughts were my gut feeling until a discussion with other mums this morning and everyone said they would not send a congrats card!! I thought it was me being unsensitive even though I am extremely sensitive!!
It will be in the post immediately!

glad to hear you would - after all - whilst she is not well - she has in fact had a child and congratulations and acknowledgement of that baby is at the very least just decent.

Hope your friend is on the mend, and yes I would send a card.

My sister was in ICU for a couple of weeks after birth of children - everyone sent cards - she was thrilled with them when she was finally conscious - helped her realise she had actually given birth.

just imagine recovering and looking around and realising none of your friends had sent you a card

of course, no question, of course you should send

Definitely card. I would refer to the tough time they're having inside the card so she knows you care (which you clearly do) and send your best wishes.

I would send a card, perhaps to her house rather than the hospital she'll love reading them when she's a bit better.