Changing the date for a c/s - possible?

[muminaquandary]

My c/s has been booked for 29 August (39 weeks) and I am really concerned about school years, eg LO will be very young for year. I already have a DS born in May and it really shows that he is one of the tiniest ones, physically & otherwise. I would like to change the date but there are a couple of probs:

• I was advised not to go to term due to size of DS1 (10lbs5) & severe SPD
• DH has a really important work project which starts on Sept 4th ... so he is not keen to change it

I am seeing my m/wife this afternoon ... any advice appreciated

Im an end of August child and was always top of the year and didnt feel hard done by. In order to push your baby into the next year you would only have to push it until 1st September. Mention it to the midwife and see what she says. I had my ds at 37 weeks to prevent me from going into labour - thing is though if baby comes early anyway you dont get a choice

good luck

DH is also end of August and it hasn't held him back ... my Mum has been making me anxious as she is a teacher & is always up on the latest theories re education ... but yes I could push it back then accept Fate if it comes early!

bump - would love to know if other people have also delayed c/s

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My actual due date is 1st Sept. So yes, I could request it with the factors you listed as my reasons (and not just the school dates IYSWIM). Elective advised (& requested) due to traumatic delivery, long labour, PPH etc etc. Generally a Good Idea rather than absolutely necessary.

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yes, so I suppose I would have to request 4th Sept (monday), ie EDD + 3. that bu**ers up DH's plans, and increases possibility of early labour (altho I was 14 days o/due with DS).

what did you have in the end norms? c/s ?

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If it's not too late to join in, I don't have experience of this but having recently read most of 'Birth Rights' by Pat Thomas, I would put money on your being legally entitled to do whatever you choose.

well, our neighbour who is senior obs & gynae there, is on duty Fridays ... however she may have strong feelings about delivering someone she might have to see every week for the next 20 yrs!!

TBH, I think they are all staff-convenience / cover oriented, is a safety net I spose

yes I too am very keen on not having to go thru the stress of wondering if my bits were ever going to be the same again ... or having a PPH so bad it blocked up the plumbing at home & at hospital (eeeerrrrggghhh)

what's that book Lio? is it UK published

will google it too

I borrowed it from the library but if you put birth rights pat thomas into amazon.co.uk you'll get there (actually called "Your birth rights" I now notice). It is excellent if a little militant, gave me the confidence to ask for a home birth, seems VERY thoroughly researched, can't imagine she is making money out of it at that price, must be more that it's something she feels super-strongly about and wrote the book to get the information easily accessible.

... move to Scotland, then your child would right in the middle of the school year! (cur off date is February - with the option of deferring for a year if you want too! )

Doesn't really help you though.

But seriously though, although I don't know enough about the English system but if you left the CS for 29 August, once your kid was old enough, could you not defer entry for a year?

prettybird - apparently not - I have a cousin whose boy's DOB is 28 August and he is NOT ready for school, but they have no choice. They won't even take him for less days / mornings only.

Lio - yes have just googled it - will see how supportive the m/w is, she seems pretty good on mothers' rights etc (altho this is the unborn child's right to NOT be the youngest in the year!)

Hospitals generally have a lot less staff over a weekend,and although you would see someone if an emergency arose,you will have to wait longer for 'minor' things such as getting your pain relief changed etc.
(I know,I work in one at weekends)

Just thought - the other thing is that Scottish schools start in the child turning 5 after school term starts. (SO ds, whose birthday is 10 Septmeber, could techincally have held off school until this Agust, if we had felt he wasn't yet ready).

.... so I go back to my initial suggestion - move to Scotland!

Actually, I can sympathise - my brother suffered through school with being the youngest in his year (that plus having a swotty older sister in the year above him! )

prettybird - DH is actually in Edinboro for biz this week so you never know!! having said that when we lived inScotland as kids, no matter what year you were in you were still 2-3 yrs ahead of the English, esp in maths .. .shame it all went downhill from there

sugarfree - I will just have to buzz an hour before I think I might need anything then!

Stick to your guns, muminaq, Pat Thomas would tell you that it's nobody else's business how you reach your decision.

.. just noticed my post doesn't make any sense: meant to say that the Scottish schools start in August, so a child turning 5 (like yours!) after school term starts would have the chance to defer.

Just wondering how it went with your midwife?

Hi Lio & others - saw m/w yesterday and told her why I wanted to change c/s date - she is v non-judgemental and said she'd organise me another appt to see consultant but to stress that I wanted to go to term for health of baby rather than school dates ... making the argument stack up is a little difficult as I don't especially want to have a natural delivery ... I am being very shallow aren't I?!

Anyway have not told DH of my new plans, need to think about that one, but now I just need to find someone to take DS while I am at clinic. Going in on 18 July ...

I think you are doing fine and are not shallow and I wish you luck getting the birth you want.

Bit late on the discussion here, but I think it really makes a difference re. school years whether your child is a boy or a girl. I read somewhere that even at birth boys are behind girls and by five it's on average a year's difference. So if your baby is an August boy and he's in a class full of September girls he'll be at a disadvantage. ON the other hand a girl might even flourish being born in August as otherwise school might be unchallenging.
Some friends of mine knew they were having a boy and deliberately chose to have him out by cs on 31/08 with the idea/delusion that being university educated themselves their son was bound to be clever.
Do you know what you're having?
PP
ps I was born right at end of August and it made no difference in secondary school, though maybe a bit before that.

Unfortuntaely don't know what we're having as baby has been in curled up position at each scan. I am having another scan ealry Aug for medical reasons so might find out then. Altho' if they can't see anything, generally means it's a girl, right?!

i even notice with DS (May DOB) that he is a little behind verbally, as well as a little smaller >>but he is gorgeous and very very bright of course