Some urgent help/advice requires it first time mum to be?

[Babycino81]

I'm 40+4 with Fb and was told I can't have a water birth (whole other thread) due to baby measuring v big and being first time mum. I went an spoke to the birth centre at the hospital independently of the doctor and my midwife and birth centre said they were happy to take me if I went into labour naturally.
I don't think I'm being a hormonal mess but there is a possibility as I've had two sweeps, lost plug but that's all. I've done all remedies etc, raspberry tea, clary sage, DTD, birthing ball is glued to my arse etc but no sign of any movement.
I've just checked my notes an the doctor has written if I attend at 41 weeks or more, I should have a section. This wasn't what we discussed in our one and only appt. she was very forceful re: induction and I made the mistake of being honest and stating that my husband works away and is due to return to work on 9th October so that might have miscommunicated my urgency on having the baby??? I'm booked for an induction on. Wednesday but am bricking it that I will be forced into a section due to baby measuring 9lbs 8ozs. I'm not small built 5ft 7 and size 12 (ish!) when not pregnant and prior to my late scan (due to car accident) there were no indications baby was this size. Throughout the pregnancy I've been classed as low risk, no other health or pregnancy related problems at all.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? Am I bein foolish and very naive to think that I could deliver the baby or should I throw the towel in and agree to a section sooner rather than later???

Any advice appreciated an welcomed right now

I am not a medical professional so can't advise in that sense but I do know:

lots of people who have been told their baby is big and then gone on to have fairly small babies.

That you can refuse an induction.

Whereabouts are you op? It seems completely bizarre that you'd be told what your baby weighs to such a degree of accuracy - they really can't tell what an unborn baby weighs and predictions are known to be very unreliable. I was told I was having a ten-pounder (had two very late scans) and DD came out at a somewhat smaller 9lb.

I've never heard of someone being told they need a section because of a nine-pounder. It's honestly not that massive. I was certainly never given the option. I was a ftm, rather larger than you are (size 12 is pretty slim) and with a predicted large baby.

Are there any other complications you can think of that might have led to this? It just seems quite unusual for a low-risk ftm. I think you need to be asking questions about why options are being taken away from you as it all seems a bit odd to me.

Scans apparently can be two pounds out either way (so a midwife told me last week) so notoriously unreliable. Two weeks ago I gave birth at 40+5 to my second son who was 10lb 11oz - all scans showed him bang on average and I was under private consultant led care who specialises in sonography. My first was 8lb3 at 38 weeks - measured just slightly bigger tha average for all scans - so was not expecting such a whopper.

Guess my point is there is really no way of knowing!

9lbs would not seem to warrant a section, it's not that massive..

Thanks for the advice. I feel like I'm being rail roaded by the doctor but the midwife in the birth centre was confused as to why a ftm would be ruled out of birth centre delivery due to 9lb baby. In my ignorance, I didn't think that 9lb was that massive as all babies in my family have been about that. I'm really not happy so I'm going to see the midwife again tomorrow

BTW no reason at all to think you couldn't deliver the baby. I delivered both mine on gas and air (#2 standing up) and had 1 internal stitch with #1 and 3 stitches with #2.

I had a scan at 38 weeks and was told baby was 8lb 9oz, saw my midwife at 39+6 weeks and had a fundus measurement of 53cm, predicted over 10lb babysaw consultant at 40+1 and had a sweep and was booked in for induction at 41 weeks, DD was born at 40+4 after induction due to waters breaking at 8lb 8oz.

Dont worry, ask to start with induction, try and keep active during gel stage if offered. I found it easier to ignore birth plans etc, and just go with the flow, i did have excellent midwives at the hospital however, who tried to help me deliver naturally but i ended up in theatre with forceps, but we are both fine 8 weeks later

Good luck!

I had a big baby 10lb 6oz and I gave birth naturally. I can't advise in your situation though as I'm not a professional but it is possible to have a natural birth with a big baby. I was told he was very small though and was carrying a lot of water. Oh how wrong they were

Sorry, this probably isn't helpful, just wanted to let you know its possible to have a natural birth

My DS was 8lb 9, I'm 5ft 5 and had no trouble delivering him. Had to have a couple of very superficial stitches but other than that it was fine.

Strange that they're being so panicky.

I am pregnant with number 5 and I don't think I have ever come across a consultant who has supported HB.

My last was supposed to be a 11 pounder. It turned out he was just under 9lb. He was a very easy labour. In water. The best of the bunch. My MW did mention that bigger babies tend to be in better positions due to there not being much room. (I do not know how true this is)

Under guidelines, you should be able to give birth how and where you want to. In my area though the MW's hand are tied unless you are put back under their care.

With my last, I had to remove myself from under the consultant so that my plans could be made with the MW's.

BTW, lots of long walks is the best thing. RTL doesn't make you go into labour and DTD will only really work if the cervix is ripened already. There is also evidence that swallowing the semen works better as the prostaglandins are absorbed better - (but of course depends how desperate you are )

I was told that ds would be at least 10 pounds. I was high risk anyway and was still allowed to deliver naturally. He came out at 7lb8oz. They can get it very wrong. :)
Regardless ive never heard of someone being refused a water birth because of a 9lb babym thats really not that big.
My cousin actually had a 9lb4oz dd in a midwife led unit in the birthing pool 3 weeks ago.

Unless there are other xomplications it does seen rather odd.
Hope you do gwt the birth you want and it all goes well. Good luck!