oh God I'm dreading it!

[sweetiepie1979]

It's my second so I've already done it! Bit I'm just dreading it this time and im exhausted looking after my toddler.can't believe I'll have the energy to push this baby out in the next few weeks.first time was Home birth and it was hard with third degree tear and they didn't realise my bladder was so over full baby couldn't get out past it and it should have gone much quicker I fully dilated in an hour for the other 7 I was pushing I think. Then had to transferred and get stitched up catheter in for a week. Couldn't breast feed found it hard to bond at beginning. So here I am again I'm scared I'm tired I'm going to hospital this time. I have spd it hurts ahhh. I'd cry with anxiety if I had the energy anybody help?

Oh no you poor thing. Have you talked to midwife about your worries? Everyone says second is so much easier.

I had a third degree tear with first and was dreading the labour and birth as soon as I got pregnant. In the end it was twins and I had a c-section (which was brilliant). I would talk about your fears with a midwife and see if you can get a section. That was my plan. I think with such a bad tear, you would be entitled. You can but try.

Otherwise, the knowledge you gleaned from the first one will make it so much easier this time ie. you will not repeat the same mistakes - plus the second one is supposed to be easier as your body knows what to do.

I feel terrible for u sweetie. I think u need to have a real gd chat with a midwife for reassurance. Second babies do tend to be easier. I think u need someone to take ur wee toddler for a few hours or even overnight so u can relax before baby comes. Dont worry about energy to push baby out, ur body will find the energy. Ive had 2 traumatic births myself and it can haunt u for years afterwards, but just remember..... every birth is different. Best of luck huni xxxx. Zoe

Thank you yes another chat with midwife is a good ideaiI'll start with that. Thank you

If it helps, looking after a toddler and newborn is so much easier than entertaining a toddler while pregnant. You will be so tired at the moment, it's hard to imagine it but it honestly will get better. My DD is 6 weeks and life is pretty much back to normal. And my labour was a LOT quicker and easier!

Oh msfiremenSam thank you needed that x