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Section next week - advice re various, please!

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spub · 23/06/2006 09:04

Hi,
I know these questions have been asked a million times but please indulge a heavily pregnant and increasingly brain dead mumsnetter....

Any advice re dh's role re the section? Does he change into those scrub things and what does he wear underneath?(Having mental images of it all going farcically "Carry on").

I have bought tea tree oil and lavender to help with the wound healing. Know they can't be applied neat so can anyone tell me what the bloody hell to do with them?

I have flip flops for the inevitable shower and dettox wipes already packed thanks to an earlier, highly informative thread.

I have arnica 30 to take after the section and fennel tea to help with the digestion and encourage milk production.

Any other tips or reassurances about sections would be most welcome. DD1 was a vaginal delivery but there were some complications so this is my first section. At the moment, I'm having a bit of trouble focusing on the having the baby aspect rather than the having an operation. Silly, I know!

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mumfor1standfinaltime · 23/06/2006 09:13

You sound very organised to me!
I had an emergency section, so probably bit different. My dh wore his own clothes under the gown and a silly blue hat with blue covers over his shoes, along with a big sticker on his chest reading 'dad'!
Not sure you will need the flip flops? Weird idea to me, please enlighten?!
Just remember to take it easy after the op, for example don't lift too much or try to do too much too soon. Although do try to excercise with light walking. I used to walk to the park (I live next to a river and park) each day and try to walk bit further each day.
Good luck and don't worry!

lahdeedah · 23/06/2006 09:15

Mine was an emergency section, so can't rememember much about what DH was wearing I'm afraid!!

I would recommend taking a good pillow, as you will spend a lot of time in bed and hospital pillows are flat and not very supportive. Also one of those v-shaped pillows is good for protecting your scar while feeding.

Don't worry about the op - I found it very peaceful (especially after a hideous labour!) Lots of rummaging in your tummy, but no pain. Afterwards, make sure you take the painkillers on time - don't wait for the pain to start up, as they take a little while to kick in. Get up on your feet as soon as you feel able to.

Good luck!

spub · 23/06/2006 09:23

Thanks guys,
Lahdee - great advice re the cushion. Will add it to the increasingly huge pile of things to take! Also re the tips on pain relief. I remember almost salivating with relief each time the drugs trolley came round after I had dd!!!
Mumfor1st- thanks also - the flip flops are so you don't have to shower in your bare feet in what can be pretty manky conditions; particuarly in shared rooms.Sadly, some people aren't too considerate about their own hygiene. I have heard lots of instances of people going into shower areas that are bloody and generally yicky.....(hope you've had breakfast!)
Thanks again.

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southeastastra · 23/06/2006 09:23

you will be fine it's such a quick procedure!

my dp wore his normal clothes under the greens, and white wellies. i wouldn't worry about tea tree oil and lavender in hospital you won't be able to see the wound as they cover it !

good luck! you will be fine, and it will be over in a jiffy!

sugarfree · 23/06/2006 09:24

My Dh wore the pyjama type scrubs in my 2 electives,just wore undies underneath.While they are getting you sorted a member of staff will take care of Dh and show him the ropes.Don't worry.

Seem to remember as we got to theatres,I was steered to the table and arranged for spinal,while Dh was getting changed,then dh sat on a stool in front of me,while anaesthetist was doing the biz,then as they scooped me round to lying,dh was moved(with his stool)up to my right shoulder.We knew our anaesthetist so he chatted away while he got his gubbins attached,meanwhile the nurses were doing the screens,catheterising me and sticking electrode to my thigh.

Don't worry about what they're up to because you can't see or feel it as such.
Remember,you are the star of the show to start with so don't be afraid to ask questions,or for anything you need.

Also,while you are doing the chatting,waiting for Dh to get changed ask for any special requests...I had my music on,a photo of my other boy(s) on the anaesthetic machine,and the screens down for delivery.They will try to comply if they can.

I loved my electives! Good luck!

mumfor1standfinaltime · 23/06/2006 09:29

Spub - Ah I see, not a bad idea! I was fairly lucky as on my first day in hospital I was left in a recovery room with private loo and shower. Was upset that I had to move to the ward. Would have never used the shower/bath on the ward, bad enough using the loo!

LeahE · 23/06/2006 09:30

I think the advice is to take arnica for a couple of days beforehand too (but I'd not heard of it when I had my section (and didn't know I was having one, of course) so I don't know from personal experience).

Drinks and snacks may well be a good thing to take -- dried fruit was good for me (helps with the constipation too as some of the painkillers are constipating). Everyone brought chocolaty things and I was desperate for some vitamins...

Sadly, some people aren't too considerate about their own hygiene

I wouldn't necessarily blame the people who made the mess you try bending down to clean the floor the day after your c/s but it is very disappointing that so many hospitals can't maintain basic cleanliness (have to say that mine was fine though).

Skribble · 23/06/2006 09:48

Def take flip flop type shoes even for just walking about, I had a private room but still wore slippers to and from the bath, slippers can be a bit warm.

I took some cartons of fresh orange that didn't need to be refrigerated to help with constipation and help Iron absorbtion. Plus its nicer than drinking water al the time, make sure you don't take sparkling water or juice, you might be bad enough with wind after the op.

I think DH just wore his pants under the scrubs, He would have been too warm and bulky as he is a big built.

It can be surprising how much you use those stomach muscles with out knowing it, as I discovered first time out with the silvercross, trying to get it up the kerb really gets you, that was fairly early on and I had a long labour before the section. The second was an elective and recovery time was much quicker.

Once you get home stay in your PJ's for as long as you can, once you are dressed people think you are OK. They quickly forget you have actualy had major surgery. Try suggesting they look after a newborn straight away after having an appendectomy or hernia op.

CMac · 23/06/2006 09:58

One thing that I hadn't thought of is a nightie for the first night as you may still have a catheter in place so PJ bottoms not very useful (as i found out to my cost!)

Can't think of anything else that hasn't been mentioned already. Good luck and enjoy!

claraboo · 23/06/2006 10:00

Remember not to get constipated!!! Having 1st poo after birth is a scarey thing.
Drink lots and lots, you will be v. thirsty anyway and take something like senna tablets which are safe and gentle just to get you goung again!!

crumpet · 23/06/2006 10:05

I had an elective (following an emergency 1st time round), and found it much more relaxed.

One thing we did ask was that they did not tell us the sex - instead they held up the baby so that dh could see and tell me (cord not quite long enough for me to see for myself!). I held the baby as soon as he had been wrapped (prob within 1 or 2 mins of the cord being cut.) If some thing like skin to skin is important to you, make it clear - I waited until back in the room though. Will probably take about 5 mins for the baby to be born and another 20-30 for them to stitch you up.

Don't be brave - if the pain killers are not doing the job in the days after the section, insist on more. They will happily give them to you, but if you don't tell them they won't offer!

sugarfree · 23/06/2006 10:31

Oh,yes! We asked not to be told the sex with Ds3, then the anaesthetist peered round and said "Oooh,he's weeing!"
My first glimpse of ds2 was of an enormous scrotum,so no-one needed to say anything!

Highlander · 23/06/2006 14:23

DH was extremely proud to see DS being born and took loads of photos, despite being totally squeamish.

I made a birth plan and asked for DS to be handed to DH first, without weighing or measuring. It was fab. We all cooed for about 20 mins and then DH went off to the nursery for DS's measurments, VitK etc etc. The nurses were brialliant and took a million pictures of DH in a rocking chair cuddling him. I was delayed in recovery (no bed in maternity) so DH got LOADS of time with DS - of course, I was a bit narked at being delayed but I knew I would spend the bulk of those first few weeks with DS and it meant a lot to me that DH was able to bond alone with DS in those first few hours.

When I was reunited with DS 2 hours later, it was DH that showed me how to hold him, wrap him up etc. I breastfed DS, we all had a nap then I packed 'the boys' back off to the nursery for DS's first bath. Again, a couple of days later it was DH who showed me how to bath DS (in the photos I'm a wreck and DH is all calm and laughing ).

DH still says that first day was the best of his life - he loved being 'in charge' of DS for most of it. Frankly I loved them going away so I could get my head around having a sprog!!

Don't know how any of that helps, except to make the point that my relative lack of mobility for 12 hours after the CS created a bonding time for DH and DS that still makes me feel so proud. OK, I admit, quite happily weepy

Normsnockers · 23/06/2006 14:44

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Highlander · 23/06/2006 14:51

ask the gas guys to allow plenty time for the IV fluid to go in before the spinal - stops your BP crashing and subsequent puking.

Afterwards:
drink, drink, drink.

eat,eat,eat (even just cereal)

move, move, move

Pian is caused by inflammation. Stop inflammation before it gets a hold and your pain will be minimal. That means taking anti-inflammatories regulary for the first 72 hours, whether you feel pain or not. The best way to to do this is to ask the midwives if they are happy for you to self-medicate with Ibuprofen and paracetamol on the maximum dose. They're too busy to remember to bring it to you I've heard! (I had self-meds as part of my birth plan anyway).

Don't be in a rush to get the urinary catheter removed. You can drink as much as you want without the hassle of traipsing to the loo.

Highlander · 23/06/2006 14:53

I just loved my big pants. They were sooooooooooooo comfy. Gutted to throw them out

Normsnockers · 23/06/2006 15:00

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sugarfree · 23/06/2006 15:04

They wouldn't let me out til after the first poo with Ds1.I got wise and lied after ds2 and 3.
(I just can't poo in 'public')

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lahdeedah · 23/06/2006 15:10

good advice re fruit and drinking lots of water - but just to say I didn't have trouble pooing after my caesarean, so you may not have problems! this may be because I had had horrible constipation following a previous op (ectopic pregnancy) so I decided it wasn't going to happen again and got the poo out of the way ASAP!! the sooner you poo, the better - try and think positive and hopefully you won't have problems.

I loved my big knickers too! Don't wear those disposable pants, cos they don't let the wound breathe. Cheap cotton pants are much better - I bought a couple of cheap packs from Tesco, 100% cotton, size 18 (I'm normally size 14).

mumfor1standfinaltime · 23/06/2006 15:12

I drank prune juice after my cs, worked for me!

As for the wind, the hospital gave me a peppermint drink. As mine was emerg. cs I wasn't prepared. If I had my time again - I would def take some peppermint for the wind!

muffinmum · 23/06/2006 15:14

Hi there,
I had to have an emergency section 13 weeks ago and was v.sad about it as was so active whilst pregnant,was still walking dog for 2hrs a day right up until week before bambino born.
I had a fab midwife and section was weird but fine,had done a v.helpful antenatal class on emergency sections.
husband found it emotional (out of character!)walking into room when i was on bed all hooked up.took a digital camera in and midwife took fantastic photos.Husband checked sex and held her until stitched up then i had skin to skin and she had some boob within an hour of being born.

definately take the pain relief, i was given morphine which made me sick each time i pressed the pump so used it for 11 hrs as it totally knocks you out. Then relied on diclofenac and paracetamol, both minimal amts come out in breastmilk.Midwife will tell you that diclofenac will upset babies guts but its use as an anti inflammatory for your wound is essential for getting up and around and being a cheerful mummy asap.
i got 2 packs of huge pants from Tesco, much comfier than paper pants and so cheap fine to chuck away after but actually needed them for a few weeks after section.

Dried fruit is great but i found raisins and baby figs(and grapes) gave my daughter major colicky tummy.drink loads to help prevent urinary tract infection from catheterisation. get a private room asap then can sit on loo for ages without baby having to go to nursery and can sing etc to gorg new baby in the middle of the night with no probs.

for your wound is essential to let air get to it ie wear nighties/loose pjs and infection risk will be reduced.feels very weird as numb for ages where stitches are.

I dont know what anyone else thinks but i foundmidwives v.keen to take my baby away in the night so i cd get some sleep, they took her away once and i felt so bereft that i rang emergency bell after 30 mins and asked for her back.in the hospital when you need to get your baby out the cot use the controls to get your bed as high as possible to make it easy to reach over and lift her out.

at home i used her cot upstairs and moses basket downstairs, you need an upstairs and downstairs set of stuff for first 2 weeks as painful to manage stairs. i got v.excited about coming home and raced around doing stairs etc because good pain relief then had a lot of bleeding after so take it easy.also was v.anaemic after section so ate loads of microwave in bag spinach from tesco and haemoglobin levels zoomed back up v.quick.

hardest thing i found was getting up in night to feed her, you need to get on your side bring knees up to chest and lever yourself up, took almost 10 mins and lots of wincing for the first couple of weeks so husband had to jump up and try to hold off crying!advantage is that she settles very well on daddy still.

also last point, sorry so long, i found my baby bjorn carrier essential as cannot carry babe in car seat for 3 mths as too heavy.also pramette too heavy to carry around.i used baby carrier for shopping, walking,everything.
good luck

Twiglett · 23/06/2006 15:15

have had 2 sections and would like to say that they were calm and lovely and no issues with breast-feeding afterwards

relax .. it will be fine

sugarfree · 23/06/2006 16:19

Nice one Twiglet,I was just about to say we're making this all sound so stressy and traumatic, and electives generally aren't.
I really did enjoy mine.

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