Ignored when baby born

[UglySister]

Just wondering, is it common for your family to COMPLETELY ignore you when they meet new baby for the first time? My SIL did this and I still feel a bit hurt. Everybody else did quite the opposite thing, politely waiting to be introduced! Am I being daft?

I know everyone who visits is gagging to see the baby but I personally would be upset if I was blatantly ignored. My friends and family asked after me too which I think is polite, even if hey didn't listen to my response IMO women who have had children should know better.

my mil is in a bit of turmoil at mo. my ds(2.75) is the apple of her eye and centre of the universe.

But I'm pg with no2. Will have to notice me.

I also think that's a bit harsh, mud, I always wait to be introduced (in some way) to the baby by the new parents

My family and friends were lovely and all hugged/kissed me and gave me flowers etc before the inevitable absorption in the baby.

my m.i.l however was awful, and very insensitive.
She was staying with us the night I got home from hospital and just sat holding DS while I frantically dashed around doing things I shouldn't have been, but had an urge to (washing up, rewashing baby clothes etc) she even cooked herself dinner and left me and dp to do our own.

She even refused to go to the hospital to collect an antibiotic prescription for me the next day (though she had a car, and we don't!) so d.p had to go on the bus..
grr

Thanks for the messages of support! A new baby should always be the centre of attention but this does NOT preclude common courtesy in my opinion. I can´t believe how some of you have been treated by some of your family members, it´s absolutely disgusting!

I've always been ignored by MIL! To the point where once, after a 3 hour drive to see them, my DH took DD in car seat into their house while I followed with 103 bags. By the time I'd shuffled to the front door, it had been shut, and I had to ring the bell and wait ages to be let in... Yes, I was fuming.

PS Her choice of wedding photo enlargement was the only one that didn't have me in it! And yet she doesn't hate me at all, she is quite pleasant to me, I'm just not very important in comparison to beloved son and beloved grandaughter.

Gosh, Bigmerlin, have you never said anything? I think if I was in this in this type of position I would say smg along the lines of "You know, I feel very hurt when..." Give a couple of examples and see how mil etc responds. Might help and least you have the satisfaction of trying to improve things.

My dad is quite blatant about it. He said 'we're not coming down to see you, we're coming to see the children'...he is a sarcy old git though...

top tip - never let go of the baby. Then people are forced to make conversation with you and it frees their arms up for tea-making and housework duties

N.B. This is where breast-feeding comes into its own!

LOL Highlander, I like it!!