My mother is putting pressure on me to get this baby out [angry]

[emkana]

I spoke to my mum on the phone today, and she said "When is this baby coming then? Tell him to hurry up." I said "It's not up to me" She said "I'm having trouble sleeping and I feel so tense and I have heart palpitations because I'm so tense and waiting for this baby to come out." So I said, to calm her down a bit "Well we'll see what happens next Monday when I go into hospital again" She said "Oh I would be so pleased if you were induced then" followed by big sighs and everything...

She did add for good measure that she realized it wasn't a criterion (sp?) how she was feeling, but still I felt that she was putting emotional pressure on me. I did explain to her how I'm actually enjoying this time, the sun is shining, I'm with my dd's and consciously enjoying them while I can without any distractions.

Never mind your mother! What about US? :)

I have palpitations every time I see your posts!

do y know, your mother sounds just like my mil. subtle as a brick, and always thinking of her own needs! smile sweetly and just say 'yeah, yeah, blah blah blah!!'. she'l just carry on the same , but atleast you'll feel better, for a minute anyway. xx

hey emkana. you can say exactly what you want when your expecting, and get away with it..they just blame it on your hormones.

Mothers huh? Mine was the opposite - was determined that I would go over even though I felt that things were happening. I overheard her in the garden talking to her neighbour who asked how I was. "Oh she thinks something might be happening but I told her she'll go over. I did.". DS was born 2 days early!!!!

But I do think your Mum is probably worried about you and worried about her new grandson and just wants to get it all over and done with. However - totally understand your feelings too.

Baby will come when baby is ready!

I haven't answered the phone today because I just couldn't face speaking to her - horrible cow that I am.

Very wise. Avoiding is better than a hormonal blurt you might stress about later! And better than hearing anything annoying you might stress about too. I do this when I know I'm stretched to my limit with my own mother - then I phone her when I feel big and strong and detached
How are you today, mothers apart?

I'm okay, I felt a bit unwell this morning, like I had an upset stomach, even phoned dh at work and put him in a panic , but then everything settled down and I had another lovely afternoon with my girls in the garden.

Hmmmm....'bit unwell'?! And today? I'm glad to note you've packed your bag, Mrs....

Thinking of you lots, and if you're not in labour I hope you enjoy another day of sunshine with your girls...xxx

Ahh yes, will it be your first? The phone calls from everyone around the due date drove me mad. Its just that they are just as excited to see what the tiddlypeep is going to look like and will it be a boy or a girl. They are just itching to go and buy the pink/blue gifts. I just stopped answering the phone and texted everyone to say that no I was still fat and angry and my dh will contact you the minute you have had it.

No it's my third, but it doesn't get any better.

emkana - am going away for a few days - just wanted to wish you all the best in case something happens whilst I am off - take care...

I stopped speaking to both my parents for a couple of weeks before the birth. My father rang me in the week of my due date to suggest that my spd was due to having eaten too much and put on too much weight (and I wasn't even that big). My mother tried to bully me into hospital, knowing nothing about the comparative risks (or lack thereof) of home birth, suggesting that my husband didn't really support me, I had just manipulated him into it.

Ignore the selfish trout - and don't feel guilty about avoiding her. If she really had your best interests at heart (not her own), then she would respect what you wanted.

Good luck, by the way.

"I'm having trouble sleeping and I feel so tense and I have heart palpitations because I'm so tense and waiting for this baby to come out." .... never mind how you feel, eh? But she's having a few sleepless nights.

rolls eyes... mothers eh... who'd have 'em (present company excepted, of course )

huh! Mothers can be a right pain in the arse... mine continually pissed me off during both my pregs..(well meaning but sooo annoying) some how they seem to think it's them giving birth not you ffs!! don't worry just keep doing what you're doing chillin and spending time with your dds...

ignore ignore ignore!!!

My mother kept pressuring me because she had come all the way over to NZ to spend time with her new grandchild and it was still inside me!