I gave birth- what should I buy my obstetrician as a thank-you?

[MooMe]

Hi all, I had a great caesarean about a week ago and both baby and me are doing great.
My OB has been absolutely amazing throughout my pregnancy and especially at the birth- and I wanted to buy him a thank-you gift.

What should I buy him?

Has anyone here got her doctor anything?
A friend suggested I buy him Whiskey or a tie- I think both are a matter of personal taste so wouldn't know what to get exactly... He's very posh so wanted to get something nice..

Thanks!

Expensive wine. He can take it to a party even if he doesn't like it himself. Is he allowed to accept gifts from patients?

lljkk- that's a very good question!! I have absolutely no idea... Is there a way to find out?

Nothing. We aren't allowed to accept gifts of any "substantial" value (A biro is about it). Make a donation to their hospital charity, or to a charity that funds midwives in third world countries, and send him a card.

If he's posh, are you private?

No, not allowed to accept gifts. Write a heartfelt card.

Write him a letter or a card. He can put it into his professional development folder as evidence of patient satisfaction. He's guaranteed to appreciate it.

With totally on this. A well thought out thank you note that he can use as " evidence" would be the most appreciated .

I just delivered a huge cake (nothing expensive just costco) and a thank you card to the fertility team at my hospital. I think something that can be shared and consumed by all is a good idea.

Oh yes. A cake doesn't count if it's for the team.

I sent each of the midwives who were with me in labour a bottle of vintage champagne. I think and hope they accepted them, I didn't hear anything back about them being poured down the drain .

They are allowed to accept gifts! They would have to 'declare' it if they were given something very expensive and money would be problematic but a straightforward gift is ok. I agree with giving a nice bottle of wine, hard to go wrong with that, and a card is always lovely to get. Very thoughtful of you.

If it was private then yes they do accept gifts. If so try your obs secretary to see what he would like.

Never heard of this before.
People buy presents for everything now.

I have my midwife and Xmas card with a £80 wait rose voucher in it mid Dec. did and amazing job. Up to her to keep or buy the team treats etc

Money gifts are a no no. The 2 midwives who were with us during labour/emcs we gave them flowers and chocolate. I was incredibly lucky that despite it bring a Saturday and nhs my consultant was on call and came to theatre to deliver my dd. we wrote her a card

DH is a doctor - don't buy a gift. It crosses the line between doctor and patient. DH's gufts generally end up in the charity shop. Whisky always gies to the school tombola.

Your OB has an annual appraisal and patient letters are worth their weight in gold - seriously.