Am I being unreasonable? (Asking husband to stay sober from 37 weeks).

[OdaBear]

I'm just curious on your opinions on this one. I'm 37 weeks pregnant, and frankly having a horrible pregnancy. (Lots of muscular pains to bump area, sciatica, pelvic girdle pain, horrible Braxton Hicks on any kind of exertion). This is my second pregnancy - the first was easy and painless. Our first child is 18 months, and I can't really lift him without getting pains and spasms. So I have asked my husband if he could refrain from nights out from now on, as I don't think I'll be able to coordinate getting our son to my parent's for childcare, whilst organising all of his and my paraphernalia etc, in the event my husband has got trollied on a big night out. Unfortunately, he isn't the type of man who can compromise on one pint and stay relatively sober, so I have to ask him to refrain from going out altogether. He's not very happy, but is complying.

Am I being harsh?

YANBU.

After 37 weeks you're pretty much full term so baby might arrive at any time. It's perfectly reasonable to want to be sure that your DH is sober enough to handle the situation.

Good luck with the next few weeks!

Well does he want to miss the birth and let you down, forcing you to deal with all practicalities at the worst possible moment?

Surely that's a decision he can make for himself? Are you really saying his answer to the above is yes?

Definitely not unreasonable! I absolutely forbid my DH from drinking after 35 weeks! This meant no drinking over xmas, his 30th Birthday and WOULD have been new years eve too...but I was in labour!

Agree completely with your last post op, I feel exactly the same & my dh sounds similar to yours.

He refused to stay sober from 38 weeks despite saying he would earlier in the pregnancy. It was hugely stressful & not the best time to realise dh probably has issues with alcohol.

I recruited my mum to be another birth partner, no way was I going to put my baby & me in a drunk person's hands. He might have needed to be making big decisions for us if things got tricky at the birth.

Turned out he was sober though, but my mum was loads more useful!

I feel like I've been unfair on dh now, he did make a cake & put away the birth pool

No not at all, I'm 41 weeks and dp has stayed sober from 37 weeks. There wasn't even a discussion about it, he just stopped drinking any alcohol just incase he was needed for anything.

I feel like I've been unfair on dh now, he did make a cake & put away the birth pool

Hehe, it is easy to feel bad about saying things about hubby on here whilst ranting. Since last weekend he has been great actually. I just hate having to point the obvious out to him, and then have him tell me that I was right in the first place. Would have saved me questioning if my requests were unreasonable!

Well that's good news, least he got there in the end!