No one can tell you what to do - it is your body and your decision.
I had an EMCS for failure to progress with DD and was really keen to avoid another CS with DS as I found the recovery hard and the thought of recovering, not being able to drive etc, with a 3 yr old and a newborn was awful.
After doing a lot of research, i decided to try a home VBAC in a birthing pool. I weighed up the risks and made my own informed decision. This is in accordance with NICE guidelines, which state the doctors and midwives must respect the pregnant woman's decision, no matter what they believe she should do.
Once the hcps found out I was planning a home birth, they seemed to go a bit doolally and not once did anyone point out the risks of having a c-section. They go on and on about risks of vbac, scar splitting but don't tell you the risk of a uterine rupture are only slightly higher for a vbac than with a first timer (first timer can and do have a rupture with no previous scar). There is a higher risk of PPH with a c-section and it can affect bf.
My first cs definitely affected my ability to bf DD.
In the end, i ended up with a second cs but I feel OK as I let DS choose his own birthday (41+6!) as I declined induction. I laboured for a good couple of days at home, the last 9 hrs in the birthing pool which was calm and wonderful.
I transferred in after the hb midwives suspected DS might have turned transverse and carried on labouring in hospital for another 12 hrs as he was head down after all. It ended up with a crash c-section, and it turned out my bladder had become attached to my uterus and if DS had come out vaginally, he would have burst my bladder. My body must have known this as DS did not descend properly during the labour.
But mentally, I am so glad i stood up for my choices and attempted a home birth.
Whatever you decide, it's up to you. CS recovery is harder, as you know but if you do decide surgery, I'd go for an elcs rather than an em or crash. VBAC is very very empowering.