C section after 3rd degree tear

[Luggs]

Had a bad 3rd degree tear with DS1 and was told by a doctor that would advise a c section next time (to avoid risk of loss of bowl control). When I mentioned it to the midwife she told me I wasn't at the Portland clinic and I would have to try a vaginal birth! Very worried that may be forced to have VB and loose my bowls in the process. Anyone any advice?

[compo]

at insensitive midwife. I would talk to your obstrecian and also complain about the midwife

[spub]

I am in exactly the same position and have my c section booked for 30 June!
How would she like the spectre of faecal incontinence hanging over her? I agree with the others. Go over her head; she's being very insensitive and totally unhelpful.
The last thing you need is to have to go in for surgical repair to your sphincter with a child and a newborn at home.
Best of luck and let us know how you go.

[willow2]

You have every right - and reason - to demand a c-section. Stupid cow of a midwife, wonder how many bad tears she's been responsible for? Go over her head, complain about her attitude and make sure you get the birth that you want - not the one some arsey midwife decrees. Any problems, post back here and we'll do our best to sort it for you!!!

[SoupDragon]

The midwife is talking a load of b*llocks. You have a sound medical reason for an elective c-section.

FWIW though, I've given birth vaginally twice now having had a 3rd degree tear after DS1. Was told by a consultant at my checkup following the tear 9complete with lovely ultrasound) that there was no reason not to deliver subsequent "normally" as it had healed extremely well.

[Uwila]

Agree with others. Brush the midwife aside and get to the consultant. Go see your GP, tell her what the midwife said, and ask for a referral to a consultant to dicuss your elective section. Be firm if you have to. And, write your preferences all over your maternity notes.

You have to be firm sometimes to get what you want on the NHS. But don't let the midwife push you around. She has no right!

[Luggs]

Thanks to you all I will take advice and ask to speak to consultant. Just wondered if it was normal and I was being a wimp. Thanks a lot

[Uwila]

Let us know how it goes. How far along are you?

[pucca]

Hi Luggs,Yes i recently started a thread about having a elective c-section following a 3rd degree tear with my dd (still have occasional probs, which will be sorted after the birth of this one).

I am quite at your MW response tbh, i have been mithering about delivery/possible repeat of tear from the beginning of this pg and i have had nothing but supportive comments from a number of different mw's i have discussed it with, but all basically saying i needed to speak to consultant (which i did a couple of weeks ago) i decided i would go with whatever the consultant advised and she advised straight away that a c-section would be the best option, as it isn't worth risking incontinence.

Have you been told that you will see a consultant at some point? if not then ask to discuss your options with one.

See these threads (started by me for me info)

\link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1365&threadid=170067&stamp=060508213703\here}

\link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1365&threadid=135734&stamp=060417180028\here}

Hth, Good luck. xx

[pucca]

for more info lol

[Verso]

I am in exactly the same position and completely agree with the others to go over her head. What an insensitive and stupid woman! Good luck!

[monkeytrousers]

Stupid stupid midwife! Grrrr!!! Defo complain, she has a real mean streak.