Fear of VBAC, Fear of ECS, don't know what to do

[Ninjacat]

I'm really starting to feel quite scared now.
I'm 34 weeks and last week was treated for pre term labour, steroid injections, drip to stop contractions etc.
I have been told that should I labour now they won't intervene again.

The thing is that DS1 and DS2 were both born at 42 weeks. DS1 9lb 12oz - (epidural) forceps.
DS2 10lb 15oz - laboured (hypnobirthed, no drugs, my body knows what it's doing, I'm sure it was the fault of the epidural last time...) to 10cm then EMCS.
Both back to back and long labours.

The hospital seem to be pushing me towards a VBAC saying "I've delivered one big baby I can do it again" but I'm terrified about my scar rupturing (rare I know but with such big babies it's a real fear of mine) or that I end up with another EMCS.

I know I can push for an ELCS and my plan is to ask to be booked in for 40wks but being a big woos I'm terrified of something going wrong.

I suppose really this is just a long winded way of saying can I have some reassurance please. I'm really scared

Hi Hun, I was feeling exactly the same as you and was being pushed towards vbac after a pre ELCS as ds1 was breach. Anyway, pregnancy issues kicked in ie SPD, and then showing large for dates. They checked for gestational diabetes but ruled it out. After this they agreed to book in a ELCS after I said I was concerned about pain if pushing. I was booked in originally for 29/01/13 and went to sign the consent forms last Thursday.however, by this time I'm 37 weeks, can hardly walk due to SPD, large bump, swollen feet/hands and generally fed up. I told the consultant this and had a little sob and explained I was so tired and he bought the date forward. I am now 38+1 and going in at 7am this morning(hence why awake now) terrified but hopefully it should be over quickly and the previous elcs was really calm and i had no problems. I really couldn't have faced a normal labour. So basically, really push for what you want, it's really scary when you feel they are not listening. Maybe lay it on a bit thick but good luck.

Thanks Damash
I'm glad I'm not the only one.
I hope all goes smoothly for you today.
Happy Birthday Baby-Damash

Ninjacat. Push for what you want. I was similar to you but the other way around. 40 hour labour and EMCS with DS1. 12 hour labour and VBAC with epidural forceps birth with DS2. Not planning on doing it all again. Well done to you. I can see why you would want a planned C section with DC3 when you had big babies. Good luck with it all.

I had planned to try for a VBAC with ds2 but had already said if i went overdue, i wouldn't be induced and would want another caesarian. As it happened, I went into labour at 34 weeks. They managed to delay it for a week but he just wanted out. Remember if you go into labour again before term, baby won't be so big anyway. I certainly think that helped with ds2.

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Thanks Bounce and Dont.
I think that's why I'm looking to book in for 40 weeks in the vague hope that baby comes early but knowing I definitely don't want induction.
I suppose I just need to get my head around the fact this baby will come out no matter what. Think it may be a bit too late to change my mind now