Due today, feeling too inhibited to go into Labour

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Well today is d- day, but I feel so much like a watched pot that I really think it's preventing me from relaxing and going into Labour.

The background being that we moved in with my lovely mil at the start of December, it's going ok but it's a little crowded as there are 3 adults and 2yo ds in a 2 bed flat. The problem is that my mil is so excited about the baby that any twitch or twinge I have she's asking if something is starting. Most days when she has something to do she Will jokingly try and schedule when I can have the baby. (she' s doing it even as I type this lol)

I know she means well, but the constant comments about "when we have this baby" make me feel Like I'm under performing by not popping already. I know I'm overly sensitive because I was induced last time and I'm terrified of it happening again, but I just want to find a dark cave to hide in until it's all over.

I went on a shopping trip on my due date. It was the only way to get it off my mind. Think it must be really hard for you with so little personal space.

I think that's partly it as well, I can't really send mil to bed of an evening just so I can pace around the lounge, but any attempt to get comfortable or make sure baby is in a good position is met with knowing looks, elbow digs to my poor dp and more questions about if I think this is it.

I do love the woman to pieces, I just need her to calm down a bit.

You poor thing, the constant phone calls were enough to wind me up without having to see mil all the time. Can you get your dp to have a word with her? If that doesn't work have a hormonal meltdown

Oh god being in the same house as my lovely MIL on my due date is my worst nightmare! She would be exactly the same. Could you ask DP to have a word with her and tell her to back off a bit?

Dp just says that she' s only joking and that she's excited, which rationally I know is true. However remaining rational at this stage of the game ain't easy lol.

I have gently / jokingly pulled her up on the "when WE have this baby" comments, but I really want to avoid a hormonal meltdown as she's been so great letting us live with her and helping out with day etc.

sorry that should be helping out with ds. Bloody predictive text.

Feel for you OP. My family are overseas, so if it wasn't at least daily phone calls & texts begging to know what was happening it was details of how they had just burst into tears in the street with the stress of it all (seriously! a) they are on the other side of the planet and b) it was me waiting to have the baby!). Then one half of family decided to come for xmas..... despite us not knowing when lo one arrive and having agreed it would be better to wait until January. So I too know how the watched pot feels. Towards the end I almost hid under the table....I say almost.

The pressure cant be underestimated as of course you feel grateful for the interest, but I know I worried that the audience might stall labour and as it turned out I did have a couple of false starts. Having said that the contractions started coming thick and fast when I was in the house alone!

Just as well as otherwise I would have screamed its not a bloody circus at someone.

It is one benefit of csections, isnt it. Planned. Time. Place. Limited uncertainty. Although...when i get my date i might pretend its a couple of days later.....

I empathise, currently 40+5 and MIL and FIL are here for 10 weeks and living in neighbours house so seeing them every day, every evening and usually FIL turning up as soon as our bedroom curtains open in the morning to see what we are up to. MIL keeps asking pointed questions if I move seats/do anything and because I tidied up the other night (more to avoid talking to her than anything else) she decided I was 'nesting' and repeated this over and over until I finally said "I am NOT nesting" and subsequently got told off by DH for being rude!

However, having them actually living in my home would drive me bananas and especially the "we".

I definitely feel that this baby is overdue because I'm stressing about them being here (and another family issue that has arisen). I've had some pretty strong braxton hicks (which I never felt in my first pregnancy) at night but because I can hear them all still talking in the living room I'm reluctant to get up and say anything to DH and eventually they fade away. However, I figure eventually labour will happen on its on or I'll be induced like last time and then I'll finally get to meet this baby.

Good luck for the next little while!

I think I'd have another word with DH, or even DMIL if you can - play it up and explain that you know she is really excited but in your emotional state, all of the little comments she is making are making you feel quite pressured. Ask if it would be possible for her to just not mention going into labour, as you think it may help to relax you and move things along.

Lay it on thick and pretend its your issue, and not her.

I really feel for you, I'd be feeling quite punchy in your situation!

Well I managed to turn the drama up even more yesterday, ended up with a killer headache and visual disturbance so obviously went to go and get checked out just in case of anything untoward (several hours and the same room I had my traumatic induction with ds later everything is fine) but now I've definitely got the hawk eyes on me.

Really feel for everyone that's going through something similar. kiwi I completely understand what you mean about not moving around or getting up with your Braxton hicks, the second I lean over a worktop because they're so strong around the bottom of my bump I get asked whether "this is it"

lightrain I'm not sure saying anything would help as I genuinely don't think she realises she's doing it, so if I say something and it doesn't stop I will end up feeling more wound up IYSWIM.