Thought I should come back and update this thread as it might be interesting for others in a similar position.
Well....I had a successful VBAC last Friday and now have a lovely little boy.
I was booked in for an ELCS on the Thursday morning,I would have been exactly 41 weeks. On the Wednesday I started getting labour twinges and ended up in hospital that night with contractions 4 mins apart.
On the Thursday morning I think I was slightly dilated but they said I could still go ahead with the section if I wanted. However labour ward was very busy and they said if I did want the section I wouldn't be able to be seen til at least lunchtime anyway.
This was good in a way as it took the decision out of our hands and I had no choice but to carry on contracting.
Worst bit was that morning/lunchtime as the contractions were very painful (later transpired ds had turned back to back). As labour ward was busy they couldnt move me there and so no proper pain relief. I did end up getting tramadol and paracetamol (woohoo!) which did nothing except make me feel sick and a bit spacey.
Eventually they got me a portable canister of gas and air and I struggled on until a bed became available.
Once on the labour ward I was 5cm dilated - I was really encouraged as I only got to 3 cm last time. So we agreed I would persist. Eventually got an epidural but 4 hours later was still 5cm.
Luckily-ish the epidural hasn't fully worked so I was able to move from the bed to the birth ball and bounce around a bit. I also agrees to a carefully monitored synto drip. I had to use a little bit of gas and air still but was fine. Next time they checked me I was 9-10cm!!! Couldn't actually believe it.
Eventually after an hour and a half of pushing, an episiotomy and ventouse my little boy was born on the Friday morning at 6.30.
Established labour was 16 hours.
It was long but time went quite quickly and it was amazing really. I never actually thought I would go into labour and all the way through it dh and I were expecting I wouldn't dilate and so on.
The midwives were incredible as was the registrar. We had pretty horrible midwives last time so that made a big difference to me feeling I was in safe hands.
Last time I had read loads of books inc. Hypnobirthing etc, was booked in for a home birth, wanted a birth pool...in short I had very high expectations and it couldn't have gone more wrong.
This time I had no expectations at all. I was pleased to go into labour as otherwise had I had the section I would always have been wondering if I had waited a bit longer if I would have gone into labour.
The most amazing thing of all has been the recovery. Knowing as I was being wheeled back to the post natal ward that I would be able to go home later that day and sleep in my own bed was great. Luckily so far I've been feeling fine and had no probs with the stitches or anything. It has been so much easier than the CS recovery which has made for a much nicer beginning with my newborn.
So what I'm trying to say is that it is possible to have a VBAC following FTP. It is a hard decision to make and it was taken out of my hands really with the labour ward being busy. At more than one occasion I asked for the CS when the pain was bad and I couldn't get suitable pain relief!
Good luck to anyone else in the same situation.