Hi, I'm expecting my second child (14 weeks now) and I am very worried about the birth.
I had a normal delivery with my daughter (well, complete agony and 2 2nd degree tears, but that seems normal!). However, i had a retained placenta, which they removed manually, using only gas and air. I was recovering from a mild chest infection so they wouldn't give me an epidural or spinal block during the removal, and the midwife was very negative about surgery - she kept telling me to calm down and not to scream 'because we'll end up in surgery, and that's the last thing you want - if you think this is painful, try surgery' etc etc.
It took little over an hour to remove, with the midwife and then a registrar in me with a scalpel. It was agony, especially because they kept taking the gas and air away from me (I was over using it apparently). I remember the edges of my vision going dark at times because of the pain. i thought I was going to die, the pain was worse than crowning.
Obviously, I never want to go through that again. I naively thought that women had a choice now of vaginal or c-section birth, but I went to my booking in appointment and was basically told, you have the right to ask, but there's no way we'll approve you for a c-section as you're healthy and a retained placenta would be dealt with differently next time. The midwife said they wouldn't attempt a removal like that (different hospital - she said my treatment was appalling), but would sent me straight to surgery.
My view is that if I have a vaginal birth then get sent to surgery, I get all of the negatives of each type of birth and none of the postives (i.e. I'll have the pain/tearing/risk of haemmorage of a vaginal birth, then all the risks of surgery). I pointed this out to the midwife, but she just kept reiterating that they wouldn't approve me for a c-section.
Sorry for the long story - what I need to know is whether I am beong reasonable and if so, how I can persuade them to give me the section. I am terrified of a vaginal birth now. Since my booking in appointment last week, I haven't managed to sleep through a night because of nightmares and worrying. I've gone from being excited about the birth to tearful and scared.
Sorry for the essay, I just don't know what the heck to do :(