Too old?

[ValerieDavis]

Read an article today saying that 45 is too old to want another child. In your eyes - how old is too old?

I don't think 45 is too old. My great aunt had her youngest at 45 and now in her 90s is still very fit and active, my neighbour on the other hand is 91 and very frail.

I think menopause is probably a good guide mainly due to the increase in risk to both mother and baby as women get older.

i dont think 45 is too old at all - it totally depends on the mum, my mum thought she had menapouse and it was me! already had a downs baby before 14 years before - so she was high risk and nearly aborted.
she was a wonderful mum, and in her 70's was often out with me at vairous do's and parties..and was great fun to be around....she had three children all close together in her 30's she said she really enjoyed just having me pretty much one on one...

I don't think it is too old but I think some things get harder. I am having DC2 at 41. However, I am in good shape (better shape than when I did it last time) and I am having a healthy pregnancy so far so I think it is a pretty individual thing. If you are 45 and in great health and great shape they why the hell not? My mum was an older mum - this was unusual back then but it is the norm now. As long as you can be there for your children that is the main thing and none of us can guarantee that whatever our age. I kind of think if mother nature is still working to produce eggs then she knows better than us.

For me, personally, it would be 30.
DH is 10 yrs older than me, and is finding it hard work with DS at 36, so I don't think he would be able to cope with a newborn baby past 40.

My best friend at school had older parents, and although I guess it's more normal now it's stuck with me how different her interaction with them was compared to my mum & I.

I wouldn't judge anyone for having children at any age (unless we're getting 60+) as you've got no idea how long they've been trying for one/why they haven't had one before etc.

Menopause is there for a reason it happens when you are too old to have more babies. I really dont understand the argument about this, viable eggs have run out risks high. Piggy I'm 35 and for me thats too old for any more....

I don't think I'd want to have another child outside of my 30s (I'm 31). This is easy for me to say though since I had DS1 at 23 and am expecting another in 2 weeks. I can absolutely imagine myself trying into my 40s if I was childless and keen to have one of my own. I would always have the health risks at the back of my mind though