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Possible homebirth and state of house

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NewlyMintedPeasant · 21/08/2012 13:06

I'm umming and ahhing over having a homebirth, if I could be sure of water bool in MLU I'd go there I think but it seems like it's often unavailable due to demand. As being active is top of my list for birth, even imo making my birth safer, I'm thinking home. Last time I got to 8-9cm on the antenatal ward over night without disturbing anyone, but quickly went to lots of pain relief within minutes of being on my back and slowing labour right down once on the labour ward and strapped up. I think it's a realistic option pain-relief wise as I got so close under my own devices, when I buzed them on the antenatal ward as I felt I was close I was told to go to sleep as I didn't look close and was examined 'against clear advice' (then rushed to labour ward!).

One concern is the state of my house. Firstly, I keep it clean and tidy! However, we bought it in a very very bad state and have been slowly doing it up. We've replaced all the walls and painted plain undercoats to them and changed the kitchen and bathroom but it's still not done. We have an old axeminister carpet downstairs, not quite to the walls, quite heavy marking/ the odd hole in back room. No skirting boards throughout (snail nightmare!) which means gaps to the floor/wall, the front door is on it's last legs (but curtain hung behind it for draught exclusion). Stairs undercovered, though recently bannisters have been attached. Upstairs the floors simply have pressed paper stapled down to even them out, except ds room which has a (unfitted) carpet. The windows to the front are rotten, a few small holes to the edge of rotten frames but secondary glazing means it's not cold. Some bits are a nightmare to look clean due to the state. The furniture is all freecylce/ skip recovered except beds, tired but clean. DS doesn't want for anything. He's well surpervised and even when the house was in a worse state he never came close to injury. The house looks worse than it is, and isn't going to improve much on the major things due to funds. It's looked after, the garden is tidy and trimmed etc. Also 4 adults and 1 child live here so it's full (though I think they'd stay at friends for birth).

I'm a bit worried about the reaction of midwives to the house, I remember last time I lived in a lovely flat and the HV going on and on about 2 foot of wiring hanging loose. This is way beyond that. Could they either say it's unsuitable or refer on to HV involvement etc?

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thisisyesterday · 21/08/2012 13:08

sounds fine to me!

they're only going to say it's unsuitable if you have no water, or electricity, or gaping holes in the floor or things liek that

NewlyMintedPeasant · 21/08/2012 13:10

I think I'm paranoid after the HV last time, who was the only person to enter my flat. Obsessed with dangers. Here a child does need constant watching

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Tittywhistles · 21/08/2012 13:18

As far as I'm aware (my sis organised a water home birth) your midwives will need to come into your home and do a risk assessment but this is to cover them working in your home.

I think they could probably pick out concerns if they wanted, but the best thing to do is to talk it through with them to see if you need to make any changes.

songline · 21/08/2012 13:19

I had a home birth on a tiny boat with no electricity .... the midwives were totally cool and unjudgemental... If you feel you can let go of worrying about it go for the homebirth . You could always keep the lighting dim so they can't see too much detail!! They are going to visit you after the birth at home anyway , you never know maybe they could help you access some funds to help do the place up.

Tittywhistles · 21/08/2012 13:21

songline your experience sounds lovely

spiffysquiffyspiggy · 21/08/2012 13:35

Don't worry about it- Our house was in a similar state when I had DS2 not much better now. I apologised to the mw but she said she was only interested in whether there was somewhere to wash her hands (a very leaky sink in our kitchen that had just had a pipe burst in the ceiling), toilet facilities (dodgy floorboards covered in , what the access was in case they had to do an ambulance transfer and whether we could get the room I planned to give birth in warm somehow. The rest was all aesthetics and if I wasn't bothered then she wasn't. Grin

spiffysquiffyspiggy · 21/08/2012 13:39

Bah, children pressed post before I'd finished. The floor in the bathroom was v dodgy floorboards covered in scruffy rugs. heating was electric fire. She was fine with it all. The living room had sheets strung on string instead of curtains.

None of it mattered for the birth which was fantastic. Hope you get a similar experience.

GinFilth · 21/08/2012 14:38

My first home birth was unplanned & we were in the middle of decorating the hall. There was no carpet down, pots of paint on the stairs, draughts coming up through the floorboards. Our bedroom was unhoovered & had lots of dog hair on the carpet. The midwife who turned up with a student in tow passed no remarks at all. She was lovely.

Second home birth was planned. I had even done the hoovering.

I would definitely have a home birth should I ever be pregnant again.

mayhew · 21/08/2012 17:56

As a home birth midwife, I am not passing judgement on your home. And I am more interested in parking than decor! My main concerns are, a warm clean room for the birth, decluttered as much as possible, and reasonable hygiene facilities.

Indith · 21/08/2012 18:02

Gosh all mine have been homebirths in various chaotic homes!

The latest one I was really, really struggling to keep on top of the house as I kept picking up tummy bugs so the house was a state. I always try to be able to say that it might be a mess but the important bits (loo, sink, worktops) are hygienic but I'm not sure that was the case then! It was a planned waterbirth but that didn't happen due to hot water issues as we had let the bloody fire out (hot water heated by fire in this house) so then I had to give birth in the living room as the dining room was flled with a half inflated redundant pool. The MW had to sweep random crap off the coffee table to find space to put her things down. the house was cold and poor dh was stoking the fire trying to get it hot enough to be able to get the radiators working!

It was great and all absolutely fine :)

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