Anyone else's partner think birth is gory and also not comfortable with big belly, extra weight?

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My dh is like this - sometimes think I'm not really sure if I want him at the birth thinking - god she's got big (might be a water birth in which case would probably look like a beach whale with 2 big boobs on top :)) and god it's gory (poo floating about in water as well :o). Birth imminent any time now - we already have 2 whose birth he as at so maybe it really is gory but I did not think of it like that... Only the placenta maybe but you don't have to watch that bit as you have nice baby to look at instead.

sorry, beached whale

What's gory about birth? There was no gore when I gave birth and there's no requirement for him to see the messy end if you give birth kneeling.

My partner has seen me throwing up. Much, much worse imo.

my dp is kind of... he definitely didn't want anything to do with "that end" when I had ds, and didn't want to cut the cord.
but that doesn't mean he didn't want to be there at the birth, although i do think he found it hard!

I think a water birth may be LESS gory tbh.

My dh was squeamish at dd's birth and stayed firmly up at my head steadfastly refusing to glance down at 'the business end'. He had to get over himself pretty quickly for ds's birth though as he had to act as midwife!!

no gore Pruni?!! I had tons!!

Nothing visible, really, compo - it all went on the floor and dh didn't see it. There wasn't a lot tbh...

Yes, dh found whole pregnancy thing grotesque and stayed firmly at the head end during labour. I think, given the chance, he'd have not been there at all but he knew how that would have been received.

He was horrified to discover in antenatal classes that some fathers liked to cut the cord, wrote on birth plan that he did not, and every time a new doctor came into the room he would say "Just to let you know, I definitely do NOT want to cut the cord".