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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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Freddy (Flintoff) should he stay or should he go?

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 28/02/2006 21:17

captain your national team or be there at the birth of your child? discuss

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lockets · 28/02/2006 21:18

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Heathcliffscathy · 28/02/2006 21:21

i cant' be rational about this paaaarp

he should come home!!!!!!!!!!!!

tuppenceworth · 28/02/2006 21:21

Wife and child every time!!

There was a real chance that if I'd gone into labour on a day when ex-dp's football team were at home I would have been doing it alone. Thing is, he would have been going it alone very soon after if it had happened that way!!

Priorities gentlemen!

JanH · 28/02/2006 21:22

Lots of fathers miss the birth of their babies for much weedier reasons than this!

expatinscotland · 28/02/2006 21:22

think of the money. think of the money. go captain the f*cking team and support the child in style, freddy!

Heathcliffscathy · 28/02/2006 21:22

we're totally and utterly scr$wed anyway....

it would be lovely if he singlehandedly (literally at the rate they're dropping) won the test but so unlikely that i really think he should go and be with his wife while his baby is born

there...that was bit more reasonable wasn't it :o

hunkermunker · 28/02/2006 21:22

If she has good support, and is happy for him to captain England, that's what he should do. But it should be her decision

whatsmyname · 28/02/2006 21:24

up to his wife. Whatever she would find easiest. some women find a female friend more suppportive at the birth than an anxious hubbie.

ps what does "parp" mean - as in "this is a parp topic for me"? Seen it a few times now.

JanH · 28/02/2006 21:25

She knows what his job is after all - should have timed the birth for the UK cricket season

MrsDoolittle · 28/02/2006 21:25

I remember the furore over Michael Vaughn leaving a test when his child was born, he was also captain at the time.

Heathcliffscathy · 28/02/2006 21:29

actually of course it's a no brainer...hunker you're totally right....it's up to her... but that means genuinely up to her no pressure no emotional blackmail...her call

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 28/02/2006 21:30

ok - so if you were her what would you say?

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kiskidee · 28/02/2006 21:33

parp = something like 'I am liable to rant on this topic if i don't shut up about it soon'.

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hunkermunker · 28/02/2006 21:34

I'm not sure what I'd say.

DH was there for DS1's birth, but couldn't get back to the hospital in time for DS2's, so he missed that.

I think it would depend how quickly he was likely to be there afterwards. If DH hadn't been there after DS2 was born for a fortnight, that would've been wrong. But just missing the actual birth - no big thing, IMO and IME!

JoolsToo · 28/02/2006 21:36

don't see what all the interest is in this.

freddie and his wife have made a decision that, as far as we know, they are both happy with - who are we to say its right or wrong?

Flossam · 28/02/2006 21:39

Again as well though it depends on the chap dosen't it? DP for all his faults was incredibly 'into' the birth bit and was very involved. Cut the cord etc. He is less worried than me about minging things. He'd be devastated to miss his childs birth. Would he still be so to be captain for his country? Hmm not sure. Agree that as long as his (poor!) wife is happy then there is no problem.

whatsmyname · 28/02/2006 21:40

kiskidee - thank you for explaining! For me, it would also depend what sort of birth I had had first time round and how this pregnancy had gone. If it had all been straight forward, I'm not sure I'd have been that fussed.

Hulababy · 28/02/2006 21:52

I know what I would prefer, however I am not hsi wife and DH is not him.

I presume she knows what his job was when they were together and knew that there were times that he couldn't be at home. I also presume they have talked about it and have decided that in this instance his job needs to come forst.

There are many professions when a father can't be present at the birth of his child - oil rig workers, those working abroad, the forces, etc.

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 28/02/2006 21:54

for me it would actually depend more on the nature of the thing that was taking dh away. I think being captain for England I would possibly allow. with a second child anyway. I think in general marrying someone with such a passion and talent is going to involve compromise. I would expect appreciation - I would need some time - at some stage - to follow some of my own dreams.

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Piffle · 28/02/2006 21:55

If he was my dh I'd want him to stay and do the cricket

Wordsmith · 01/03/2006 21:17

I agree with Jools on this - surely it's up to the two of them? Apparently Rachel has insisted that he stays. She has a background in cricket anyway so knows what it means to him. I don't think I could ever deny my DH the oportunity to captain his country in our hour of need (yeah.... as if.)

Presumably she has someone else to support her through the birth? I doubt if she'll be all alone and weeping, and let's face it, the child won't know any different!

So I would say it's her decision, more than his - and if she's said yes then who are we to argue?

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