For a long time now been totally stressing about birth - been drowing out every other worry, 2nd time round - I want a chance of a " lovely experience"! My first was text book, and only 23 mins pushing.
HOwever it was too traumatic, the not knowing etc the pain....
Today I met with the most human and lovley lady - to discuss it.
I got through a whole box of tissues and cannot imagine - in that emotionally charged atmosphere how it could have gone with an unsympathetic consultant.
A junior sat in too, and both were lovely.
She did mention risks - which she said were pulmonary clot, or cutting into arterty or something and more blood loss - and chance of cutting bowl or bladder.....but the last she admitted these were more common in future cections. She didnt ram them down my throat though.
I did ask her about getting out the placenta though and she assured me there was very little chance of any being left in as this is another huge worry and someone else has posted today about possible retention.
She said as i must have a good pelvis she thinks an epidural would work really well for me BUT SHE SAID
" I can put you down for one right now - the choice is totally yours, if you would like to see IF you can have a birth plan that works for you - you can try it - but at any time if you think you just want an ELC its YOUR CHOICE"
Now the pressure has been totally been taken off, I feel like I can now make a rational and calm descion!
Even though they were really sweet and kind, i still came out feeling like I had been through the mill, epecially after seeing the lifts and remebering the last time I was being pushed in a wheel chair into them....then going through my birth notes.....I cannot imagine what it would be like without that kind environment.....I am very very lucky!
Interestingly though there was no mention at all in notes of me requesting an epidural!!!!!!